Posted on 11/08/2005 8:01:14 AM PST by TBP
Before the divorce rate began its inexorable rise in the late 1960s, the common wisdom had been that, where children are concerned, divorce itself is a problem. But as it became widespread -- peaking at almost one in two first marriages in the mid-1980s -- popular thinking morphed into a new, adult-friendly idea: It's not the act of divorcing that's the problem, but simply the way that parents handle it.
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I don't know.
I recoil every time somebody says "We need to do it for the children" - that's the cover for all sorts of statist michief.
Personally, I'd rather see marriages harder to get *into*. Make people think about what they're doing before the fact rather than keep them in a bad situation after the fact. I don't think that's very good for children, either.
Whom / or Who?......
I know some folks that were the products of marriages that stayed together "for the children", growing up in a war zone left them with deep emotional scars and serious commitment issues. I think the punchline is that bad marriages are bad for children whether they divorce or not.
Actually, there is no reason to GET MARRIED unless you want to have children. Why is there a need for 2 grown widows to be married???
"Whom" is correct since there is no verb associated with it. "Who" needs a verb. That said, the title should read:
For Just Whom is this Divorce Good
For Christians, there is only one thing people cannot do outside of marriage in the eyes of God and that is to have sex.
Otherwise, be friends with the opposite sex and forget getting married.
Exactly, especially where there is physical, emotional sexual, abuse, alcoholism drug abuse,these should never be tolerated in a marraige..
I am a Christian, and I know I go agaisnt what many believe but I think that if you are committed to a person and have confessed to GOD that this is the person you want to be with then no legal marraige is needed, if I am wrong I will take GOD's punishment.
What I DO NOT UNDERSTAND....is getting divorced, and then saying...."but, we're still friends." If you're friends, STAY MARRIED. (I got divorced, and HE was NOT ever MY friend.)
Also, I like Dr. Laura's rules.....only 3 reasons for divorce.....ABUSE, ADDICTION (Uncured), and ADULTERY.
And no one else.
invert the sentence and replace "who" with "him" or "he"
"Divorce is good for he" ?
"Divorce is good for him" ?
who = he
whom = him
Works every time.
Thank you for the post. I fully agree coming from one of the aforementioned situations.
I am remarried, my first husband prefering to be away on business more often than not once children entered the picture. Abandonment is another good reason to add to the list. We remain cordial, but my second husband fathers the children and role models in a way that they would have never had the benefit of if I had stayed strickly in the guidelines of marriage forever.
Situations vary. I am not as judgemental as I once was in my younger years with less life experience.
Whom: Objective case. But to answer the question: All divorces are good for lawyers.
Lawyers
Thise 3 mentioned are not always reasons unless they are irrepairable/Physical Abuse should never be tolerated and either are the ones you mentioned unless that person is willing to get help immediately for there infidelity, and addiction.
Was this confession public? Did you still go through a marriage ceremony in a church? Thats an interesting perspective....curious here. PM if needed.
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