Was this confession public? Did you still go through a marriage ceremony in a church? Thats an interesting perspective....curious here. PM if needed.
I do not beleive you need to be married in a *Church* you can have your own ceremony between yourself that other person and GOD. I will tell you this if I was in my 50's 60's and I was alone and met a man that I wanted to be with intimately and share part of my life I would not marry in the legal sesne, although I would want to maybe have some sacrament of togetherness with him and GOD.