I do not beleive you need to be married in a *Church* you can have your own ceremony between yourself that other person and GOD. I will tell you this if I was in my 50's 60's and I was alone and met a man that I wanted to be with intimately and share part of my life I would not marry in the legal sesne, although I would want to maybe have some sacrament of togetherness with him and GOD.
I dont care about the gov knowing...although as your tax advisor I would maybe say its a good thing financially to get married. (depending on peoples circumstances)
But I would say that its tougher for me to get over the fact that we arent on a secluded island somewhere and that a confession of love/committment between yourselves and a fellowship of believers is a good thing...one you neednt deny yourself.
Dont take these comments as a "judging" thing...