[goodnesswins]

What I DO NOT UNDERSTAND....is getting divorced, and then saying...."but, we're still friends." If you're friends, STAY MARRIED. (I got divorced, and HE was NOT ever MY friend.)

Also, I like Dr. Laura's rules.....only 3 reasons for divorce.....ABUSE, ADDICTION (Uncured), and ADULTERY.

[laney]

Thise 3 mentioned are not always reasons unless they are irrepairable/Physical Abuse should never be tolerated and either are the ones you mentioned unless that person is willing to get help immediately for there infidelity, and addiction.

[FearlessFreep]

I am going through a so called friendly divorce now. We had no major conflicts, didn't argue. Just didn't communicate at all. It has totally devastated my step daughter because she didn't see it coming.

however, I am not going to be friends with my future X. If she doesn't want to be married to me, then I see no need to be a part of her life at all. Holidays or not.

[timsbella]

"Also, I like Dr. Laura's rules.....only 3 reasons for divorce.....ABUSE, ADDICTION (Uncured), and ADULTERY."

I'm Jewish too, and agree with her reasoning. I have also heard her add "abandonment" to the A-list. I assure you, it can take this form in many ways, i.e. just never being there for school events, regular religious services, birthdays, etc. Another sage item she adds is don't marry in your early 20s. I hope my children will learn from my experience.

[Gondring]

I don't want to have to pick up a bad habit to get a divorce.

[elmer fudd]

Also, I like Dr. Laura's rules.....only 3 reasons for divorce.....ABUSE, ADDICTION (Uncured), and ADULTERY.

I think that's a gross oversimplification. As others have already mentioned abandonment is also a valid reason, but another one I have seen twice now is simply that you are married to a moral reprobate. Someone who habitually steals, cheats, is unkind, refuses to work, etc... These people are often abusive, addicted and adulterous, but not always. They do always manage to either bring everyone down to their level or make everyone around them miserable however.

[joylyn]

My brother and his ex-wife remained cordial and it was a good situation for their daughter. Friends is a relative term, I guess. They certainly didn't get along when they were married -- and they were married (and divorced) twice! To his ex-s credit, she remained in the same town and didn't remarry until their daughter was almost ready to graduate from high school -- didn't want to bring a step-father into the house.

[HungarianGypsy]

What I DO NOT UNDERSTAND....is getting divorced, and then saying...."but, we're still friends." If you're friends, STAY MARRIED. (I got divorced, and HE was NOT ever MY friend.)
This is something that bothers me too. Especially the people who say there was nothing wrong with the marriage they got bored. So, these people wind up looking for "Mr. or Miss Perfect " and keep getting bored. It's better to stay married to your best friend and work on rekindling the flame. Every marriage goes through it's slumps or boring spots. It's up to the couple to bring it out of that slump.

[muir_redwoods]

"Also, I like Dr. Laura's rules.....only 3 reasons for divorce.....ABUSE, ADDICTION (Uncured), and ADULTERY."

You never tried my wife's Chocolate Tuna Surprise casserole