I Told My Boyfriend How Many People I’d Slept with…and He Didn’t Like the Answer

“My boyfriend can’t get over how many people I’ve slept with. I shouldn’t have told him, but he pressed me for the info. He was 'nerdy’ for most of high school and college, and just started coming into his own in his mid to late 20s. I have been dating consistently for years, and have had my fair share of hookups and relationships. And while I don’t think my number is crazy at all, he can’t deal with the discrepancy. We’ve been dating for two years and we’re serious. I don’t want to break up. How can I handle this?”

I agree that you probably shouldn’t have told him, but lots of people fall into the trap of discussing their sexual history with their current partner, and I get it. If you trust someone, it’s natural to want to talk about what you’ve learned from past relationships and sexual experiences. That said, numbers really aren’t necessary, and rarely do anything aside from making one person feel bad.

But you can’t go back, and his reaction may have provoked an important conversation. After all (and as you well know), this isn’t an issue of who has slept with more people. It’s about his comfort with his past, and it’s about both of you establishing that your needs are being met by this relationship.

First, you have to figure out the problem you’re tackling, because it will change the course of action.

You said 70 years ago. Now you’re moving the goalposts.

No, I'm saying that was the first time I saw it in print, but yes, there were remnants still in our society in the 1940s when women were discriminated against in terms of banking, credit, education, and employment, and expected still to be obedient wives and mothers no matter what.

Because of human biology - the fundamental design of the species - having multiple sexual partners poses a considerably greater risk to a woman's health than a man's health.

The Left has been moving Heaven and Earth for 50 years to try to deny and obscure that reality. Unfortunately, thanks to progressive control over education and media, two generations have now grown up without fully understanding it.

Women can certainly attempt to live the lifestyle some men live - but biology is still standing in the road saying "No!"

It's that "science" stuff Leftists claim to love, but ignore when it conflicts with the Revolution's goals. :)

But if you’re at all familiar with religious Jewish people you know that having children early is more common than not.

It’s secular people who tend to put other things ahead of making families on their life agendas.

Okay, now she just has to tell him the whole truth: "Sweetie, you are the best lover I ever had. Yes, you have the biggest ???? I've ever seen. I never had a orgasm before I met you. That's why I kept trying other men. Nobody satisfied my desires, except for you. And that's why I want to be with you forever. Blah, blah, blah..."

No....your statement was:

Well, back in the day, women were raised in cages, so marriage was merely a transfer from one cage to another. Whenever I look at Islamic culture and shudder, I have to remind myself that our own culture as recently as 70 years ago wasn’t so different.

“American women are fat, entitled, and expect the world. Worst women to marry in the world, which is why our divorce rate is off the charts.”

Asians aren’t bad either, and for that matter Africans are probably better too, at least when it’s time to become SERIOUS. But American Woman can be fun to be with...as long as you leave it at that.

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