We need one of these for dating.
Posted on 06/20/2019 10:03:45 AM PDT by Responsibility2nd
“My boyfriend can’t get over how many people I’ve slept with. I shouldn’t have told him, but he pressed me for the info. He was 'nerdy’ for most of high school and college, and just started coming into his own in his mid to late 20s. I have been dating consistently for years, and have had my fair share of hookups and relationships. And while I don’t think my number is crazy at all, he can’t deal with the discrepancy. We’ve been dating for two years and we’re serious. I don’t want to break up. How can I handle this?”
I agree that you probably shouldn’t have told him, but lots of people fall into the trap of discussing their sexual history with their current partner, and I get it. If you trust someone, it’s natural to want to talk about what you’ve learned from past relationships and sexual experiences. That said, numbers really aren’t necessary, and rarely do anything aside from making one person feel bad.
But you can’t go back, and his reaction may have provoked an important conversation. After all (and as you well know), this isn’t an issue of who has slept with more people. It’s about his comfort with his past, and it’s about both of you establishing that your needs are being met by this relationship.
First, you have to figure out the problem you’re tackling, because it will change the course of action.
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“Yep. They couldn’t leave even if they were being beaten. Women were trapped and subservient. A lot of men consider that ‘the good old days.’ “
Exactly. I appreciate the freedoms and rights I enjoy as an individual and further observe that there are those who cannot self-control. That doesn’t mean there should not be freedom. It means acknowledging that there are consequences and addressing them.
We need one of these for dating.
How about just dating someone without knowing the answers to these kind of questions anymore. Because it really doesn’t matter.
In that case, “How do you do?”
Now you have.
See, that's your problem. You see what you want to see, not what's really there.
I don't call all women bitches, I call bitches bitches. If a woman isn't a bitch, I won't call her one. It's perfectly simple.
I don't call all women sluts, I call sluts sluts. If a woman isn't a slut, I won't call her one. It's perfectly simple.
Try reading for comprehension. It'll do you a world of good.
Really? I'm 54, and I heard every man say that when I was young. Every man wanted to be his wife's (or girlfriend's) one-and-only.
You determinedly miss the point.
I read somewhere once that Ole Miss red-shirts Ms Americas.
That said, any college campus in the southeastern conference might prove that statement wrong.
Yes, largely because of differences in what the sexes ultimately want in a marriage. Women want a provider and someone that can take care of them. Men want someone attractive and fertile that they can be sure the baby is their baby. Both want companionship. A man having sex with a bunch of women pre-marriage doesn’t in any way limit his ability to provide and take care of a single woman. A woman who has had 50+ partners is going to make the guy really nervous about just who that baby daddy is (especially with the court system today skewed against men).
And I don’t call all men angry. I only call angry men angry. You’re angry.
“Women want a provider and someone that can take care of them.”
Depends, men today can’t fill that role like they used to and today’s women know it.
Yes that is my argument. The very same tools that set some women free were used by many more women in acts of transient passion as tools to permanently destroy families, so much so that the threat to do so falsely become in and of itself a fixture in marital relationships.
For every woman rescued from a genuinely abusive situation, how many families were broken that would have otherwise remained intact? What happens to those kids? Where is the point where it is OK to tear the kids’ lives apart in the name of freeing the woman? Are 10 turning kids’ lives into dumpster fires per woman saved from some man’s tyranny sufficient? 25? 100 or 1000?
It’s really sad that all you see is the rare case of genuine abuse of a woman in a marriage, and think nothing of all the collateral damage to the lives of everyone involved. There’s an industry dedicated to breaking up marriages that has flourished in the wake of the “solutions” to the problems you describe, finding any excuse to make a dollar... that’s OK.
And of course there are probably still the same number of abused wives, because serious abuse involves psychological manipulation and laws don’t prevent that from happening. The real victims often aren’t in a condition to take advantage of those solutions and really need the intervention of a clear-headed third party.
Like dad. If they had one.
Well, how many was it?
Women don’t want to marry someone they consider beneath them.
But those pickings get slimmer with each passing year.
Clinton Joke: What does Bill say to Hillary after sex?
“I’ll be home in 20 minutes, honey.”
And what does Hillary say then?
"Get dressed, Huma, Bill's on his way home."
YEP.
That’s the real revenge men can have against those women who thought they were better than the men.
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