Posted on 06/20/2019 10:03:45 AM PDT by Responsibility2nd
“My boyfriend can’t get over how many people I’ve slept with. I shouldn’t have told him, but he pressed me for the info. He was 'nerdy’ for most of high school and college, and just started coming into his own in his mid to late 20s. I have been dating consistently for years, and have had my fair share of hookups and relationships. And while I don’t think my number is crazy at all, he can’t deal with the discrepancy. We’ve been dating for two years and we’re serious. I don’t want to break up. How can I handle this?”
I agree that you probably shouldn’t have told him, but lots of people fall into the trap of discussing their sexual history with their current partner, and I get it. If you trust someone, it’s natural to want to talk about what you’ve learned from past relationships and sexual experiences. That said, numbers really aren’t necessary, and rarely do anything aside from making one person feel bad.
But you can’t go back, and his reaction may have provoked an important conversation. After all (and as you well know), this isn’t an issue of who has slept with more people. It’s about his comfort with his past, and it’s about both of you establishing that your needs are being met by this relationship.
First, you have to figure out the problem you’re tackling, because it will change the course of action.
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I agree and it’s refreshing! There are younger folks who’ve not drunk the liberal, anything goes kool aid. I can use my own kid and her friends as an example. She’s had two boyfriends but remains a virgin (so she says-I can only hope) plus her 20 year old bestie remains so as well. In the case of the bestie, she had a date that ended poorly and I think it woke her up to the fact that she’s more valuable than a body part. Seems guys her age want one thing only! (Like since time began)
The more things change, the more they stay the same! Lol
You can speak for me.
<>i>”she is Asian and the child is white.”</i>
That’s why the Wong family got divorced.
Two Wongs don’t make a white.
Sorry, but Jesus Christ was about salvation.. who was he saving? The pios or the fallen? Did he turn away the whore? Did he turn away the tax collector? Did he turn away the pompous jackass who thought he was better than the rest?
I grew up in a very religious home, I attended private religious school, and I can tell you that I have never heard any man ever say, My future wife MUST be a virgin. Not once.
Has nothing to do with accepting the Lord as your savior.
You may want to brush up on your teachings of Jesus Christ, because while the bible is quite clear it doesn’t condone fornication, it is also quite clear that ones past does not define ones salvation. God’s Grace is boundless, and NONE of us, not even you, are deserving of it, yet we all can receive it anyway.
Yeah, also thank her for the education. No doubt she was the kind of gal who laughed at the computer nerds in high school on her way to boning her boyfriend of the day in the parking lot.
I do recall from other threads that no man is good enough for you
I do not want to be with anyone anymore, that is certainly true. But I don't say men aren't good co-workers, good leaders, etc. But too many do have a tendency to treat everyone they meet better than the woman they are involved with.
You struck me as the sort of woman who was the fall-gal in the Churchill anecdote that ends “Madam, if I were your husband, I’d drink it.”
No. That kind of woman doesn't have the courage to simply LEAVE a man she's unhappy with. There's no need to throw rocks or to poison anyone. Just leave. It's amazing how many people can't summon the intestinal fortitude to ... just leave.
Guys are always flawed, and most of them know that.
Perhaps that's why they despise any woman who'll have them. What's the old saying? He wouldn't belong to any club that would have him for a member?
Sing one more song, and
then we’ll pass the plate.
Oooh... boy, the more you post, the more I see the anger.
My dear, you're so blinded by your own prejudices you don't see a blessed thing.
That phrase will prove to be Ted Danson’s greatest contribution to the culture.
How do you know he’s angry? Why do you think he’s looking for a reason to despise the gal and not just trying to figure out if its time to lock this up more permanently in marriage? I think you are projecting a bit.
You are the one who said it. I said (to another poster) that women were "trapped and subservient."
You said, "Was it worth it?"
When I asked what you meant, you said, The changes made so that these “trapped and subservient” wives would be free. Were they worth it?
So it's YOU who said we had a nation of fatherless children because of the changes that allowed the trapped and subservient women to be free. This is YOUR argument, not mine.
Fortunately, slutty has a high correlation with crazy
I’ve always said “the only difference between a pro-choice woman and a pro-life woman is their view of abortion.”
Hmmm … That requires some thought.
I see you calling women sluts and bitches. If it’s a prejudice to think that men who like to call names are angry, I’ll just keep that prejudice. It’s the same sort of instinct that tells a woman whose van not to get into.
+1
Hence why marriage rates have cratered
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