By DAVID CRARY AP National Writer November 23, 2003, 2:55 PM EST NEW YORK -- The choices can be wrenching: skirting the law, leaving one's country, splitting up with one's lover. Under U.S. immigration policy, those are the options facing many same-sex couples when one partner is American, the other a foreigner. "They're in a double closet of being gay or lesbian, and being an immigrant -- people don't feel safe talking about it," said Sophie Fanelli, a French woman unsure if she will be able to remain with her American partner in California beyond next year. When a binational...