By the time Shidiva and Sherri Black-White were married at Oakland City Hall in June, they had spent two years trying to help their families adjust to the idea of their lesbian relationship. Shidiva's relatives in Contra Costa County came around. "I kind of put it to my family, if you make a decision that you can't deal with my sexuality, you're really going to be losing the relationship you have with me," she said. "Over time, they got used to me." Sherri's family resisted. "Mine is still in the working phase," she said. "We're a very opinionated family." Their...