I Told My Boyfriend How Many People I’d Slept with…and He Didn’t Like the Answer

“My boyfriend can’t get over how many people I’ve slept with. I shouldn’t have told him, but he pressed me for the info. He was 'nerdy’ for most of high school and college, and just started coming into his own in his mid to late 20s. I have been dating consistently for years, and have had my fair share of hookups and relationships. And while I don’t think my number is crazy at all, he can’t deal with the discrepancy. We’ve been dating for two years and we’re serious. I don’t want to break up. How can I handle this?”

I agree that you probably shouldn’t have told him, but lots of people fall into the trap of discussing their sexual history with their current partner, and I get it. If you trust someone, it’s natural to want to talk about what you’ve learned from past relationships and sexual experiences. That said, numbers really aren’t necessary, and rarely do anything aside from making one person feel bad.

But you can’t go back, and his reaction may have provoked an important conversation. After all (and as you well know), this isn’t an issue of who has slept with more people. It’s about his comfort with his past, and it’s about both of you establishing that your needs are being met by this relationship.

First, you have to figure out the problem you’re tackling, because it will change the course of action.

> Only in the movies...porn movies.

The very article under discussion here is not a movie of any kind, but someone’s real life. And if you think it is uncommon, you are way out of touch. Go check out the sexual content of mainstream modern youth culture.

Fortunately, the young now contains a growing contingent which is rebelling against the systematic degeneracy they are falsely led to believe is harmless and even virtuous behavior.

It can be disheartening, but I think it’s just a measure of the penetration of the psy-ops of Cultural Marxist warfare against us. There is a lot of work to be done, and I think others here have pointed out that Generation Z, among others, is able to see the chaos and destruction that has been left in its wake. We are also getting immigrants/invaders from places that look at us in horror at what we’ve tolerated in sexual and marital morality.

Any man who is pressing for that information already has his suspicions and is looking for a reason to despise you. She’s better off getting away from him. Write that 2 years off as a learning experience, because he is never, ever going to forget and it’ll come up again and again. He’s an angry man.

I like that post, I'm going to show my coworker.

LADY

I think that a some point, when you get old enough, you say to yourself, “well, live for the now because I might not be here tomorrow “.

The old Japanese women are notorious for letting people know they are there and get out of my way. ...the Japanese even have a name for these women.

O-Ba-ta-rian. Mean pushy old woman.

leaving out the crazy dimension is … an equally bad mistake

Sure. That's why I identify it as a very multidimensional problem. Hot, crazy, moral (several subdimensions), spiritual (a few more subdimensions) … One can project any two onto a graph and learn something from it.

Easy situation to read. Hot loose chick in her mid to late 20s meets tech guy with his own company and now wants to marry for financial security. Tech guy is shocked that hot b-tch is interested but enjoys himself with a knockout on his arm and a lover who rides him like a bronco at night in the sack.

After two years, and her talk of marriage, he finally asks for — perhaps demands — some details. He’s surprised to hear that hot b-tch has had 10-20 lovers a year since she was 15, probably over 100 by now, many of them one-nighters when she was high.

Time to let the hot b-tich live with the consequences of her choices. Dump her and find a sweetie who didn’t spend her formative years acting like a minx.

Take the money you would have spent on a wedding and wedding dress and give it to your boyfriend. Tell him to go to Nevada and spend a two week vacation at a few Brothels. When he has exceeded your “number of past sexual partners” have him come back to you and ask him what his favorite new sex acts are and if he can teach them to you.

Then as two equally matched sluts you should be fine and live happily ever after! (/sarcasm).

I remember a Benny Hill skit with an elderly couple lying in bed.

Wife: “Tell me, were you ever unfaithful?”

Husband: “I must confess, I was once unfaithful.”

Wife: “Well, you sure could use that once, now!”

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