A triple murder. A suicide. A 2-month old orphan. A mentally ill mother caused the tragedy, but it took a state bureaucracy to turn tragedy into travesty. The case in Connecticut now has implications for every parent: Can you really determine who will rear your children should you die? ---------------------- For Chad and Sara Prigge, the evening of Wednesday, June 9, 1999, started like any other. They tucked their children, 4-year-old Caleb and infant Rachel, into bed. Sara cleaned up from dinner. Chad, the assistant pastor at Truth Baptist Church just outside Hartford, Conn., had some studying to do before...