Posted on 11/14/2020 5:05:41 AM PST by Prince of Space
I’m asking for prayers for my son-in-law. My daughter just informed me tonight that she’s leaving him this weekend while he’s out of town. I knew they were having problems and she “wasn’t happy,” but I was hoping she’d come to her senses and realize she was being stupid. Unfortunately, she hasn’t. They’re both 32, have been married for 7 years with no kids, and they are employed.
The reason I’m asking for prayers is the way she’s chosen to leave the marriage. He’s coming home Sunday to a note explaining that she’s gone. I love him to death but he’s got a negative outlook on life in general. I know how I’d feel if it happened to me and my heart breaks for him. I believe he also has a gun, although we live in Arizona so who doesn’t?
I’ve been here for over 20 years, including as a lurker, but this is only my second post. I’m really feeling anxious about this situation so I’m asking freepers to lift up Adam in prayer and surround his heart with love to help him get through this dark time. Thank you in advance!
Thank you.
Thank you.
Thanks.
Thank you.
I didn’t realize asking for prayers was “meddling.” But thanks anyway.
Thanks.
Praying for all involved. Ignore the negative responses on here. Unless someone has been involved in a situation like this they have no concept of still loving and caring about the soon to be ex-spouse of a child. My son was at fault in his divorce and I’m still friends with his ex-wife. I simply told him that “he divorced her, I didn’t”. And yes, I love my son unconditionally too and he understood and is fine with it now.
Prayers for you and your family, in Jesus name.
Thank you! I love them both and it hurts my heart to see their marriage ending. I told her that I’ll still care about him, but I love her no matter what and my loyalty lies with her. I’m hoping and praying that everything turns out okay for both of them.
Thank you for the prayers.
Your son-in-law has my prayers. Our youngest daughter is a few years older than yours. I understand exactly how you feel. Fortunately, after 3 failed long term relationships, 2 failed marriages and 3 grandchildren all from different fathers, she finally married a man who is a conservative and considerably older than her. Somehow she has now been on the straight and narrow for several years now.
The knee jerk reactions by some of those here who here who have never been through something similar to what you are going through. I felt incredibly sorry for some of the guys our youngest daughter got involved with. We love our daughter but she was very bad news for young men.
Sometimes I really wanted to warn them ahead of time.
Your feelings for your son in law aside, I would trust my daughter’s feelings. Should she lose her life, it is gone forever and in reality, you would lose two times. But , in reality, you never know. You have some tough decisions to make that can only be made by you. I wish you good luck. Since no one knows what the future holds, you just have do the best you can, based on what you know. Again, good luck.
I’m sorry you’re getting so much flak for your post.
Prayers up for the situation.
Has your daughter even ever considered marriage counciling?
Has he?
Your priority should be with your daughter, not her troubled husband.
You're meddling.
You and your family are in my prayers.
Life is so darn complicated, and this election fraud does not help one bit.
Prayers for your entire family. May I add this: YOU may think YOUR daughter has told you everything but she hasn’t. No daughter has ever told her Mother every little detail of their private life. My best advice is this: tell your SIL that you love him and you will always love him even after their divorce. There isn’t any children in the picture so maybe... just maybe... both of them will find true happiness in the years to come. There are a lot of Freepers who have found true, kind, honest love AFTER a divorce. I know you don’t like the way your daughter is “telling” him that their relationship is over but their may be a reason for it. It sounds like your description of him being “dark” and you have a fear that he may have a weapon... well... that is very telling. Prayers for all involved.
Praying for you all.
Prayers
He’s on a weekend getaway with the guys, including my other SIL who drove them, so hopefully he’ll be with him when he reads the letter. They’re really close and he can help him through this.
I love my daughter dearly, even though I don’t understand her most of the time. Of course I want her to be happy, but I also hate to see anyone get hurt in her elusive quest for “happiness.” I don’t call that interfering; I call it parenting, no matter her age. She’s gonna do what she wants to do and always has. My job is to make her think before she jumps from the fat into the frying pan.
Thank you for your prayers and understanding.
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