Prayers for your entire family. May I add this: YOU may think YOUR daughter has told you everything but she hasn’t. No daughter has ever told her Mother every little detail of their private life. My best advice is this: tell your SIL that you love him and you will always love him even after their divorce. There isn’t any children in the picture so maybe... just maybe... both of them will find true happiness in the years to come. There are a lot of Freepers who have found true, kind, honest love AFTER a divorce. I know you don’t like the way your daughter is “telling” him that their relationship is over but their may be a reason for it. It sounds like your description of him being “dark” and you have a fear that he may have a weapon... well... that is very telling. Prayers for all involved.
Thanks for your prayers. I appreciate it. And I’m sure I only know a snippet of what goes on in their marriage. I don’t know if there’s anyone else; she assures me there isn’t, although that was always her MO in the past. They both have issues along with trouble communicating, which is why counseling would be great, but he refuses, saying he can do it by himself. My initial fear is he will harm himself, but I’m also worried about her safety as a secondary reaction. I guess that’s why my heart is so heavy at this time.