Your son-in-law has my prayers. Our youngest daughter is a few years older than yours. I understand exactly how you feel. Fortunately, after 3 failed long term relationships, 2 failed marriages and 3 grandchildren all from different fathers, she finally married a man who is a conservative and considerably older than her. Somehow she has now been on the straight and narrow for several years now.
The knee jerk reactions by some of those here who here who have never been through something similar to what you are going through. I felt incredibly sorry for some of the guys our youngest daughter got involved with. We love our daughter but she was very bad news for young men.
Sometimes I really wanted to warn them ahead of time.
He’s on a weekend getaway with the guys, including my other SIL who drove them, so hopefully he’ll be with him when he reads the letter. They’re really close and he can help him through this.
I love my daughter dearly, even though I don’t understand her most of the time. Of course I want her to be happy, but I also hate to see anyone get hurt in her elusive quest for “happiness.” I don’t call that interfering; I call it parenting, no matter her age. She’s gonna do what she wants to do and always has. My job is to make her think before she jumps from the fat into the frying pan.
Thank you for your prayers and understanding.