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Posted on 04/13/2007 5:53:23 PM PDT by DollyCali
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Bill,
I think between the *before* picture of Crystal and the *after* picture, I can see a very discernable difference in her eyes...you mentioned several times that she had some sort of material collecting in her eyes and that that obviously wasn’t good.
She looks clear-eyed and rounder in her belly in the after pictures, too. I am so glad! I hate to see animals suffer. You did a wonderful job of restoring her to good health.
I know your friend must appreciate your good efforts and probably learned alot from what you were able to share with him about how you did it.
...and a personal thanks for following up with Dolly ‘bout the thread
she was at death's door about 6 weeks ago. She was so thin all of her bones protruded. She could not use the litter box & was continually in need of me washing off the results of that situaion. Re: tainted food/Cali's health... It was NOT the food, I dont believe. She never had any of the problem food UNTIL she was ill.
I normally feed a lot of cats & just get the really reasonable foods in big cans (from walmart or PetsMart). But to tempt her to eat I got the Iams, Fancy Feast etc. The Iams was the problematic food she ingested. But it wasn't that much. I gave her a lot of people food. Tuna fish, chopped ham, chopped chicken, raw egg/milk.
She is walking again (and had not for 3 months).. The two dogs are still afraid of her & she remains the Alpha animal in the house, although some of the younger cats in household are vying for that place.
oppsy!
was it just the age that was the problem?
how is dad ? how are you? It must be exhausting for you to be running so much between work & the hospital & I am sure you are missing dad at home a lot also. The empty house & silence are not good.
nice pix of Crystal.. she does look bigger. In the first pix her head seems smaller than body but in after pix it is same size or larger(or is this just a camera illusion?)
she is pretty. Are gecko’s terminate in growth patterns?
Aaawww,
Cali looks very sweet...I can see the age in her eyes, though...glad she has improved a bit and is able to get around now.
I had occasion to visit a store (to purchase 2 flags) yesterday...there were cats everywhere! The proprietor said they have 12 indoor cats and a few more outside...they are known cat lovers and, apparently, people know that and drop their unwanted animals at their door...
We had made plans to get together in the city tomorrow. Lo and behold, I just received an email from her that her ex-boyfriend came to her out of the blue after two months. They met and yadda yadda yadda...they are likely together at her apartment right now. This is the second time "an old boyfriend" has stepped in to cut what could be a promising relationship short in the last six months.
I know that this may anger some on this board, but I really hope that the both of them get hit by a bus. I have had my heart broken too many times in my life to "get over it." Without the affection of a woman, life is nearly impossible. Yes, I can throw myself into my work, but that doesn't help.
Now, I will have a weekend of despondency. All I have to look forward to is a bottle of Cabernet and pain and anxiety. Then, its back to the salt mine on Monday.
For those who have detected increasing bitterness in my posts these past few months, alot of it has to do with my personal life. I realize that what I have just said makes me fodder for the DUers to mock me, but I really don't give a damn about them. I am REALLY ANGRY that what could have been a beautiful relationship with something close to my ideal has been ruined by some a-shole making a phone call out of the blue and getting what he REALLY wanted (the mattress tango). He was probably just "blocked up" and looking for a booty call.
There is no solution, none.
This is why I live in Idaho, if anyone wants to visit me, they can only get here on conestoga wagon once they get into the Idaho border. Then once they get into the “non-Idahoan checkpoint station” they must send a written message via carrier pidgeon that they’ve arrived. Then hike 10 miles, hang a right at the alfalfa field, then bear right again at the irrigation ditch, then a button hook left down by the Old Man Johnson’s sod farm and...well you get the idea. :)
Oh, BTW krunkygirl, you could use your love of martinis to filter out potential suitors. Can they make a good martini? Or do they struggle to mix milk and macaroni along with powdered cheese to make macaroni? As for me, I learned to mix a drink known only as the Alabama Slammer. It’s great...if you don’t like your liver. :)
Probably not. It was fine for five years, and then her parents came to live with us. They couldn’t speak english and were not happy.
Hello Fellow Singles,
Been a while since I’ve dropped in, I hope everyone will have a great weekend! Looks like we will be dodging weather here this weekend......glad I didn’t go camping. Anyone from the Southeast looking in?
~Phil
All is well.
I was spiraling fast for a while there after “you-know-who” did “you-know-what” to me...but not long afterwards, I got a call from a temp agency. They had read my resume on Monster.com and said they were impressed and wanted to place me in a big company; it’s a big Philip Morris cigarette plant and they had an opening in one of their offices. I went in for an interview, filled out a ton of paperwork—and then waited.
I spent an anxiety-ridden week waiting and calling and waiting and being put off and waiting...until I got an e-mail informing me that I didn’t get the job. The spiraling fast started again...
But then a few days later, I got another call on my cell phone. Apparently, a new position was opening in the exact same department, and this one was even BETTER (longer 1-year assignment, easier work), and they had specifically asked for me because they were impressed with my resume.
It took another two weeks of agonizing waiting and calling and waiting some more...but finally, *finally*, I got that magic phone call; I had been accepted for the position!
It’s great. I work in my own cubicle, on a computer, with solid hours (8-4, M-F with no overtime) for $11/hour. The temp job lasts until April 1, 2008, but there may well be plenty of opportunities for permanent hiring. Today I just completed my second week with the company, and life couldn’t be better!
Barb will not be here this weekend. She didn’t mention what exactly was going on, but she’ll be too busy to get on-line all the way until next week.
glad I refreshed one more time.. and wow, I don’t blame you for being upset & yes, I too wish some people would find their way to the neat place under a bus etc. That is a natural part of anger.
If she left him originally there were prolly good reasons & they will manifest again.
I read once to NOT date anyone who had broken up with someone - or they died - (from a serious relationship/not casual dating relationship) in less than 6 months for that reason. And even better a year. But often the one who was scorned is eager to get back into life, “SHOW THEM” I can find someone else, etc & simply has not processed the loss & thus is NOT ready for a new person & is very vulnerable to the old person in their life, even if that “old” person (not age you realize) is NOT for them.
Maybe someone else can give some ideas.
Glad you are here. Most of us have been there Clemenza, it is not a pretty picture & yes, many of us also find Cabernet, martini’s, etc poor substitutes for the person, but that is where we are at
Parents have a way of complicating relationships.(so do kids)
I hope I don't end up starting something ugly by answering this one, but I have a few thoughts on the topic.
First, in almost every case where I've received "the just friends line," the young lady in question had no interest in being my friend. I think I've shared this illustration previously, but I'll share it again. When I've been the recipient of "the just friends line," I've always felt that I'd been cast in a play where the beautiful, gracious princess gently turns aside the inappropriate affections of the grasping troll. She's casting herself as the princess and me as the troll. Needless to say, being rejected is bad enough, but being cast in that light adds insult to injury.
I think part of what bothers me so much is the ill use of the word "friend." In almost every case, "just friends" doesn't mean that she wants to be my friend. Instead, "just friends" means that she wants me to go away. I understand if a woman just wants me to go away, but a real friend is a precious thing. I hate to hear someone use the word "friend" as code for "go away."
In terms of the whole situation, I've become more accepting as I've aged. I've had very good friendships with women for whom I just couldn't develop romantic feelings. We've given each other real time in our lives, and we've both benefited from the friendship. However, the feelings that would allow us to succeed romantically just weren't there. In some of these situations, the women have had real interest in me. I've tried very hard, but I just couldn't return those feelings.
I've not had as many situations that were the opposite. Most of the women who I've found interesting have not been willing to give me serious amounts of their time. There have been one or two exceptions, but they have been true exceptions. Obviously, it's frustrating that no one has been willing to give me that kind of time in return, but I understand that life is busy. I hate to think that we couldn't have developed worthwhile friendships anyway, but maybe in some cases it was easier not to be near them.
Where the acceptance comes in is that I eventually felt that I couldn't blame those women who took one look at me and decided that I wasn't right for them. I think some of them were wrong in their judgment and others were premature in deciding that I couldn't be what they wanted, but I recognized that if I couldn't have feelings for some women, I could understand other women not being able to have feelings for me. I don't know whether I accepted myself first or them first, but I eventually decided that I wasn't going to blame anyone. The situation is no one's fault. It's just one of the cruelties of life.
Getting back to the "just friends" statement, a better way of saying things may be "I'm sorry, but I can't return your feelings." That statement doesn't lend itself to the princess and troll act, but the objective shouldn't be to set up that kind of act. This statement makes clear that there will be no romantic relationship but doesn't pretend to promise a friendship.
Bill
Glad about the job Phil & glad you like it. Philip Morris is a good company to work for as is Reynolds.. (well RJN now)
wow!
Well, it sure as heck beats Tragic Mart and the retail nightmare I was in before!
She looks sweet. I’m so glad that she’s doing better.
Did someone mention martinis? Make mine a double margarita! :)
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