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This week, I thought that, after a month and a half of nothing, that I had met a wonderful person. We really clicked and got along well. She was a beautiful artist from Argentina. Intelligent, witty, and honest.

We had made plans to get together in the city tomorrow. Lo and behold, I just received an email from her that her ex-boyfriend came to her out of the blue after two months. They met and yadda yadda yadda...they are likely together at her apartment right now. This is the second time "an old boyfriend" has stepped in to cut what could be a promising relationship short in the last six months.

I know that this may anger some on this board, but I really hope that the both of them get hit by a bus. I have had my heart broken too many times in my life to "get over it." Without the affection of a woman, life is nearly impossible. Yes, I can throw myself into my work, but that doesn't help.

Now, I will have a weekend of despondency. All I have to look forward to is a bottle of Cabernet and pain and anxiety. Then, its back to the salt mine on Monday.

For those who have detected increasing bitterness in my posts these past few months, alot of it has to do with my personal life. I realize that what I have just said makes me fodder for the DUers to mock me, but I really don't give a damn about them. I am REALLY ANGRY that what could have been a beautiful relationship with something close to my ideal has been ruined by some a-shole making a phone call out of the blue and getting what he REALLY wanted (the mattress tango). He was probably just "blocked up" and looking for a booty call.

There is no solution, none.

glad I refreshed one more time.. and wow, I don’t blame you for being upset & yes, I too wish some people would find their way to the neat place under a bus etc. That is a natural part of anger.

If she left him originally there were prolly good reasons & they will manifest again.

I read once to NOT date anyone who had broken up with someone - or they died - (from a serious relationship/not casual dating relationship) in less than 6 months for that reason. And even better a year. But often the one who was scorned is eager to get back into life, “SHOW THEM” I can find someone else, etc & simply has not processed the loss & thus is NOT ready for a new person & is very vulnerable to the old person in their life, even if that “old” person (not age you realize) is NOT for them.

Maybe someone else can give some ideas.

Glad you are here. Most of us have been there Clemenza, it is not a pretty picture & yes, many of us also find Cabernet, martini’s, etc poor substitutes for the person, but that is where we are at

This is the second time "an old boyfriend" has stepped in to cut what could be a promising relationship short in the last six months.

Sorry you're dealing with this. It seems to happen quite a bit....but I think it's because "new" relationships are an unknown...and they gravitate back to the old "familiar" because it doesn't require the time to get to know each other.. and they think they can fix it.

If someone tells me they are fresh out of a relationship, I lay low for quite awhile to see if they are predisposed to this behavior. (*hint* most of the time they aren't...especially if they are the ones that got dumped)

You poor soul...I had a bad week, but I think yours was worse...wish I knew what to say to help you feel better.

Try a martini? :)

I did have a “new” twist with my preferred vodka martini this evening. A gentleman suggested I try the green olives stuffed with blue cheese...they proved to be very yummy!

Nancy

Oh, man! That's really rotten. I know what it is like being down in the dumps.

Since we are spilling our guts here as thr subject of the thread, I remember I had a real tiger by the tail myself in my college days. It started one time where I met this young lady, must have been late 1988 or so. We were talking and we both found out we had the same interests like science fiction (Dr. Who, Star Trek, etc.) and so on. Well we did the lunch thing and so on and for a short while it worked, then summer break came and went and the next semester, I tried to approach her again. Sh got really angry and said, "get away" much like I was stalking her. Well, I didn't want any trouble so I said, "OK, I'm gone," never bothered her again.

Weeks pass, and then one of the college professors wanted to see my after class. I though, OK, so I went into his office and there was the girl. I thought, "what's going on?" She told the story about where she was accusing me of hacking into her account on a local computer Fidonet BBS (this was 1989 by now, before the internet, Fidonet was like an electronic pony express, worldwide) and the BBS had some porn on it. The reason she pointed her finger at me was she saw my name on the caller roster. First off, I said, I only called the BBS once or twice, found out about the nasty stuff and didn't call it again plus I would never do anything illegal like that. Then the bomb was dropped to where some local law enforcement was involved. I then left for my car, dazed and confused. As I was driving, it was like a dream, I sort of blacked out behind the wheel, my mind went "TILT." Although getting religious was years away, I knew there was a God, He was the one driving that I am convinced. I got home in tears, I was still messed up and I remember the cats, first Corky (she was a kitten then), then Pansy and Cricket came over to comfort me.

Everything was cleared up though, basically she was accusing me because she saw my name, that's all, much like accusing a bank customer as being an accomplice to a bank robbery because he was only present to cash a check. There have been no charges filed at all and I actually do wonder if the law enforcment statement where they were involved was a bluff or not. The college administration helped as well a a dear friend who had his own BBS. Still the scars are deep although I'm 99.9% over it right now although it still smarts when I tell the story.