There was a face behind the paperwork of the rape case. And Lisa Ballas wanted Gen. S. Taco Gilbert, commandant of cadets at the Air Force Academy, to see that face clearly across his large black office table. It was April 8, 2002, Ballas recalled, and she had asked to talk with him about court-martialing her alleged attacker, a senior cadet who she said raped her at a party. After only a couple of minutes, however, her hopes evaporated. "Any other man would have done the same that night," Gilbert told her, she said. "You need to take responsibility for...