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My Husband Went to the Store and Never Came Home, Deserting His Two Kids
Yahoo Parenting ^ | February 16th, 2016 | Eden Strong

Posted on 02/16/2016 3:28:15 PM PST by Mariner

I saw my ex-husband in court last week. It was the first time I had seen him in longer than I could remember; the exact date lost in an 8-inch-thick legal file of court proceedings that is currently lying on my desk. In fact, I could count on one hand the number of times I have seen him since I started that file four years ago.

Up until just a few days ago, I literally could not find my ex-husband.

But before he disappeared four years ago, I was a married, stay-at-home mom of a 3-year-old daughter and 7-month-old son. Then overnight my world turned upside down when my husband said he was going to the store and simply never returned.

Not only was my marriage over, but he left me with two very young children in a position where I was unable to instantaneously support us.

Quitting his job and leaving his work vehicle (his only car) in the parking lot of his employer, he turned off his phone, moved out of town, and became untraceable. His actions were not just an exaggerated statement that he no longer wanted our marriage, but it was a heartbreaking declaration that he also no longer wanted our kids.

And I’ve heard it all; the judgments that people love to throw my way. “Didn’t you see this coming,” and “what did you do to make him leave?” Or “this is why you never should not have been a stay-at-home mom without your own career,” and my favorite, “you had kids with him, you did this to yourself.”

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To: FR_addict

“A man who doesn’t spend time with his family can never be a real man.”


181 posted on 02/16/2016 6:20:29 PM PST by dfwgator
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To: Zuriel

Thanks for sharing your story.

God bless you and your wife. May you have many more happy years together.


182 posted on 02/16/2016 6:26:48 PM PST by thecodont
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To: Justa; cherry

my mother left. this was probably 1975. she took me and my sister at gunpoint from an uncle.

my father found her in another state. we were living with her and her drug dealer boyfriend. violence all the time. we were on welfare.

my father tricked her into thinking he was taking us to the store for new clothes. when he got us into the vehicle, he didn’t stop until the police caught us at the state line. the judge told my father to take us and run before she got to the courthouse.

the rest is history.


183 posted on 02/16/2016 6:26:48 PM PST by AlmaKing
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To: Mariner

It took my cousin almost 2 years to get any money out of her husband. She almost lost the house because she had trouble making the payments on one salary. She had two sons in college and one still living at home And it only happened because she took him to court.
He had no problems with an apartment because he moved into his new girlfriend’s apartment (who was 20 years younger) the day he left my cousin.

My uncle left my aunt and two children. He was a serial cheater. Yes he did pay child support, but my aunt got no support and eventually lost the house and moved into a small apartment with the kids while my uncle ended up living in a gated community on a golf course with his new wife and their two children.
And if you think I am leaving out any details, my entire family, including HIS mother and father, took my aunt’s side.

They were both faithful loving wives who husbands were bastards to them. They didn’t know how to fight dirty like the husbands did when it came down to the money.

I’m one person with these two stories. Why you think, in these situations, that it’s a rarity for the woman to be worse off then the husband is beyond me. You need to open your eyes.

It’s funny how you ignore all the details of this story and turn it into a warning for men to not get married. In what way did this man suffer compared to his family’s suffering?


184 posted on 02/16/2016 6:33:48 PM PST by CaptainK (...please make it stop. Shake a can of pennies at it.)
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To: thecodont

Thank you, and God bless!


185 posted on 02/16/2016 6:39:42 PM PST by Zuriel (Acts 2:38,39....Do you believe it?)
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To: frankenMonkey

No! Im surprised he didnt jump off a bridge


186 posted on 02/16/2016 6:42:08 PM PST by ronnie raygun
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To: beandog
"You pay for it, how conservative."

Who are you to question whether I am a conservative? Are you the guy who's wife had 10X as many partners as himself?

And, no, I don't pay for sex, at least not as an overt transaction.

that's the realm of marriage.

187 posted on 02/16/2016 6:44:36 PM PST by Mariner (War Criminal #18 - Be The Leaderless Resistance)
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To: Mamzelle
Oh yes.

On FR the woman is always to blame and any objection to that means that you are a "man hater".

If you are a stay at home mom you are a leach.

If you are a working mom then you are a materialistic bitch.

If you have children then you are just using them to justify your sponging.

If you have no children you are selfish.

188 posted on 02/16/2016 6:51:49 PM PST by Harmless Teddy Bear (Proud Infidel, Gun Nut, Religious Fanatic and Freedom Fiend)
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To: Justa

“80% of families are broken-up by the woman.”

That little tidbit is the clincher; men know this, and are responding accordingly. For all of the horror stories we hear about women getting shafted, there are a hundred for men (of which we hear very little, but the young boys who witnessed them are now the grown-up men who won’t marry).

I’ve been married for many years, but certainly understand men who refuse to do so. It isn’t for everyone, and I appreciate the candor of men who feel it isn’t for them; the courts undoubtedly favor women if it doesn’t work out. The trade-off is you have to accept masses of foreign youngsters babbling in tongues imported here to compensate for our low birthrate...


189 posted on 02/16/2016 6:58:23 PM PST by kearnyirish2 (Affirmative action is economic warfare against white males (and therefore white families).)
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To: Mariner

Not my sentiments. Just trying to get where you are coming from. Does not sound like something a pro-life, pro-family conservative would advise. But I will take your answer as a “no”.


190 posted on 02/16/2016 7:01:59 PM PST by unlearner (RIP America, 7/4/1776 - 6/26/2015, "Only God can judge us now." - Claus Von Stauffenberg / Valkyrie)
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To: Vermont Lt

Ain’t tellin’


191 posted on 02/16/2016 7:13:53 PM PST by NorthMountain ("The time has come", the Walrus said, "to talk of many things")
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To: JohnnyP
Those are the ones with tattoos?

Heh, the tattoos definitely make it easier to identify not-wife-worthy women, but not all women without tattoos are worthy either.
192 posted on 02/16/2016 7:15:23 PM PST by fr_freak
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To: Mariner

We dont hear his side of the story.

Was the wife being respectful? Was she undermining the husband in the disciple of the children?

Was she spending money beyond their means to go to ‘play dates’ and to keep up with the Jones?

Did she offer to get a job?

Was there time for relaxation or was the situation constant demands and hectoring?


193 posted on 02/16/2016 7:24:03 PM PST by fooman (Get real with Kim Jung Mentally Ill about proliferation)
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To: Ouderkirk

That sucks.


194 posted on 02/16/2016 7:24:05 PM PST by Vermont Lt
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To: Harmless Teddy Bear
On FR the woman is always to blame and any objection to that means that you are a "man hater".

If you are a stay at home mom you are a leach.

If you are a working mom then you are a materialistic bitch...


Actually, one of the biggest pet peeves I've seen expressed on FR toward some women is their inability to grasp logical progressions of thought. For example, there may be one story that gets posted on FR where a "stay-at-home" mom behaves in a way that makes it obvious she is only a gold-digging leach. Some men point that out. Another story appears in which a woman who should have been stay-at-home instead goes to work and neglects her children for no good reason. Some men point that out. Rather than a reader, such as yourself, recognizing that these are two different evaluations of two entirely different women in two entirely different situations, we get "If you are a stay at home mom you are a leach! If you are a working mom then you are a materialistic bitch! FR men HATE WOMEN"
195 posted on 02/16/2016 7:27:23 PM PST by fr_freak
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To: Vermont Lt

I got my life back after the kids grew up. Now they have little to do with my ex. They know she was a spiteful pain in the arse. I see my grandkids practically every day...she might see them once or twice a year.


196 posted on 02/16/2016 7:29:30 PM PST by Ouderkirk (To the left, everything must evidence that this or that strand of leftist theory is true)
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To: Ouderkirk

Enjoy it. I am looking forward to grandkids. Never thought I would say that.

I am glad the worm turned.

I recall the Chinese proverb: May you live long enough to see your enemies float by you.


197 posted on 02/16/2016 7:32:45 PM PST by Vermont Lt
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To: refermech

If we’re being honest, I’m sure many of us fantasize about escaping from our stresses, even for a moment. In my case that moment usually ends with a deep sigh, a good sandwich/beer combo, and a hug from the wife or daughter.

Life will always be sweet and sour, sometimes both in the same day. C’est la vie!


198 posted on 02/16/2016 7:43:24 PM PST by catbertz
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To: Vermont Lt

You WILL enjoy your grandkids more than you enjoyed your own children....I can’t explain why, you just will.

Maybe because I am older, wiser, and infinitely more patient.


199 posted on 02/16/2016 7:49:40 PM PST by Ouderkirk (To the left, everything must evidence that this or that strand of leftist theory is true)
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To: Secret Agent Man

Yes family court is, at least in the cases of divorce, is a racket. Basically it’s the only part of the legal system where your case only ends when the other side decides they are done.


200 posted on 02/16/2016 7:52:34 PM PST by HamiltonJay
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