They left out “you’re just like your Mom” or “you’re just like your Dad.”
“You need to go on a diet. “
Calm down is perfectly fine. People do overreact and its fair and also proper to call that bad behavior out. You have no obligation to take that kind of garbage from someone that claims to be an equal in the relationship and who supposedly loves and respects you. Its also a major character flaw if its a habit of theirs.
Using the term “Partner” is applying gay speak to everyone. Stop it.
I find women are the ones that tend to say these kinds of phrases more than men. Not surprising given they talk 2 and a half times as much. I guess they are also not counting all the nonverbal moody, silent treatment stuff they do as well.
An amazingly effective communication tool is to use “a” instead of “the”.
It sounds crazy—but “a” means there are other options and keeps the discussion open.
“The” means there are no other choices and cuts off discussion.
You are FAT.
Back in my college days I was a fan of traditional folk music. I still am. No apologies.
My girlfriend at the time borrowed a good part of my collection. When I asked her to return them, she got angry and broke up with me. And she kept the records.
Hmm…Come to think of it, this story will not be applicable to very many relationships. But it’s the best I can do.
Never speak about your spouse with contempt.
Squash firmly any thoughts you have that are filled with contempt.
Contempt is the marriage killer.
A marriage may survive sheer hatred but it will never survive contempt.
Oh, and never speak about any problem you are having with your spouse with friends or family. That was one my mom taught me.
As she explained, "more then likely you will work it out but you will have made me hostile toward him forever. Because you are my child. And he hurt you. Even if only a little bit."
NOPE! The absolute worst thing my spouse can tell me is “I told you...”. This statement only accomplishes making any situation worse, feeds the ego of the person saying it, makes the person on the receiving feel even worse because they ALWAYS know exactly when they were told whatever it is. Of the communication rules that my spouse and I have, this one is pure gold for keeping the peace and working out solutions to problems.
Whatever
My partner and I were together 27 years and very rarely ever got mad at each other or had a fight. She and I would just talk it out and move on, whatever it might have been.
10. This is the way your sister likes it.
There’s a Rodney Dangerfield joke in there somewhere.
“After you lost your credit card, three department stores went under.”
“I asked a cab driver to take me where I could get some action. He brought me here!”
“I asked one guy ‘Who said you could sleep with my wife?’ He said ‘Everybody!’”
10. You just farted so loud you woke yourself up and looked abound and went, ‘huh?’ and then went back to sleep.
11. One of your boobs is bigger or lower than the other one.
How about things you should say: “Here, have some wine.”
When I see the word “partner,” I think fayg.
2. “Calm down, you’re overreacting.”
Anyone who’s been on the receiving end of this one knows how frustrating it can be — it’s dismissive to the point of being downright gaslighting. “Defensiveness is a maladaptive communication strategy,” says Catherine Nobile, Psy.D., psychologist and owner/director of Nobile Psychology
So, it is impossible to overreact, and calmness is bad? Or, if either of those things are valid (i.e. “true”), then it should not be said. In other words, humor the person who acting crazy? Basically, reward their insanity? No.