And in five years you are living with this:
Posted on 02/04/2022 5:43:31 AM PST by WeaslesRippedMyFlesh
If you want to fathom Russian women you should read Dostoyevsky and Tolstoy. However, you may not have time before your first date to check out at the library. That is why we're here to provide you with some advices on how to successfully court a Russian woman.
All women in Russia are young women!
Never-ever adress a woman with «woman» (zhentshina), «girl» (devotshka) or «baby». Even if your beloved is closer to her 50s than her 40s, she's a «young woman» to you (devoushka). Any other form of adress is not only going to confuse her, but rather even offend her.
Always pay for dinner and drinks on a date!
It's easy — your female companion is always expecting you to pay for dinner and drinks. Even if it was her invinting you. Even, if you've ordered only one cup of tea and she chose five main courses with a dessert. It is common in New York or Paris to split the bill, however in Moscow ladies see this as an act of tight-fistedness. A stylish «devoushka» may reach out to her handbag with the intention to contribute to the bill, but this is only for show. Don't be fooled!
Carry her shopping bags!
Feminism is nice and decent, but it's usually left back at home, whenever «devouski» go to the supermarket. If there's two bags, a small and a large one, lying in front of you at the cash desk, then you totally should take both. If then your female companion is carrying only her handbag, then you've done everything right.
Be vigilant!
Russian women value a courteous attitude much more than their western colleagues and their expectations of you are even higher. Open the car's door, help her with her coat, leave her go first through doors, to name but a few tricks how to earn her sympathy. There is, however, one special rule you should ultimately keep in mind — never let a lady to go ahead, when it's an elevator, for if the elevator isn't there at all you would save her from falling into the hoistway.
Let flowers speak for youself!
Flowers are always well receipted, but there's another special rule. A bouquet has to consist only of an uneven number of flowers. Even numers are for funerals. Nevertheless, this may be disregarded, when there's a bunch of more than 10 flowers. It's easy — just buy an uneven amount of flowers, or take so many, that she simply won't be able to count them in an instant.
Wait for her!
There is an unwritten law, that states, that women have the right to be late. She's right on time, if she arrives 10 or 15 minutes later, than it has been appointed. There may be reasons for being late — traffic jams, official meetings, even indecisiveness on whether her shoes really fit her dress. It may even be amusing — the lady could have been there right on time, but she preferred to wait another 20 minutes somewhere behind the corner in order not to make you think she's curry favoring you. Young ladies have to know their own worth and never be right on time — this is something even her mother has been teaching her. Defer of asking for the reason of her being late — this is useless and even improper. Just keep smiling and tell her you're happy to see her, even if it's already dark and if you're feeling cold for a long time already.
Don't ask!
«It's okay» (vsyo normalno) — this is something no guide can help you with. For hundreds of years Russian men have attempted to fathom a womans' thoughts, whenever she's mentioning something like this, with no success at all. Does this imply there's no need to worry? Or should you already be on your way bying chocolates and flowers? If the latter applies — what was it, that caused her displeasure? Understanding can be only reached on the way of countless attempts and even more mistakes. There's no alternative. And even such an approach isn't reliable. There's even a popular joke among Russian men concerning this matter: «Are you mad?». «No». «Very mad?». «Yes».
Actually, this guide may be continued even further, but this would deprive you of the thrills of trying to establish common language with a Russian woman. And the thrill is absolutely going to be there. Still, if fear is something you don't know and if you've decided to marry her, you should definitely read Tolstoy and Dostoyevsky. This is gonna prove useful.
My understanding is that Russian women make very serious wives, if they decide to marry you.
You have to be careful to not be used.
About half my family is of Russian ancestry. My grandmother was from the old country. The key to understanding Russians is that they are drama queens. Once you know that, lots of things fall into place.
Of course, they are tough too....but still drama queens. The two things are not mutually exclusive.
Don’t tease her about her facial hair.
Russian women are no different than American, British or any other ethnicity...................
Or her hairy legs................
They are women. :)
However, they are women who know the value of a husband because they have so few quality men in Russia, because the Russian spirit is still broken.
Or the fact she gained 100 lbs the day after the wedding
Sounds like Russian women are looking for simps.
“Wait for her”
As if she has something between her legs no one else has?
Being late is a pet peeve of mine. Shows lack of consideration of the other persons time
“Dont ask”
I dont like head games. Let your Yes be yes and your no be no.
Rest of it makes me think: “Isnt this what American woman used to be?”
That bridge to Hawaii, do you want two lanes or four?
Stop picking on Babushka
truth!! My son in law in Russian and his mom, sister and niece are straight up drama queens. ( he is too in a way)
No. They want real men, respectful me. But real men.
There just isn’t enough quality men in Russia, because too many Russian men are drinking themselves to death. They are still broken from their 90 years of socialism.
I think it is getting better, because they’ve actually had an uptick in their expectancy, but they still haven’t recovered.
I knew a guy that after his divorce married only Filipino gals.
“Yeah - I know they only want me so they can be American. But - they are good in the sack and good in the kitchen. It cost’s me about $40k for each wife. That’s about the same price on the lease of a car for the same amount of time. It’s worth it to me. Funny thing is, except for my first wife (American), the other five are great friends!”
Rule 1: If you plan to marry a foreign bride, be prepared to stay in the country and culture which created her. The moment you bring her to the US, and subject to American laws on alimony and child support, she becomes an American woman.
Leave your assets in a place where they are out of reach of her and any "family court" system. If she knows you can be gone at a moment's notice if she turns nasty, it's an incentive to behave.
THE nationality most likely to divorce American men who marry foreign wives?
Russians.
Unfortunately, there are a helluva lot of scammers in Russia who look to just get their green card and then drain their husband dry financially in the divorce proceedings. I’m sure there are a lot of good and honest Russian women who are not at all like this, but the prevalence of scammers has made a lot of guys I know hesitant about getting into a relationship with them. Which is a shame because to me Russian is THE sexiest accent in the world for a woman.
This is very true. I dated a RussianRussian-American girl in my 20’s. Seeing what she turned into just 10 years later had me decide I dodged a bullet.
I'll pass. I'm an old man anyway, and the < young women > in my life are called granddaughters!
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