“Very Cosmopolitan”
Posted on 05/23/2021 11:12:28 PM PDT by wac3rd
Sorry about the vanity, but here goes....my wife and I sold our Bay Area home and bought a nice place in suburban Boise. Our kids were in school, limited masks and life was about 80% of normal vs. 20% in California.
Fast forward to May. My wife hates it here. She is conservative but said she would pay the high taxes, property taxes and cost of living to avoid the culture here. She thinks that our school-aged kids will not be able to prosper if they stay here in Idaho. No exposure to worldly things, more blue collar, less sophistication, etc.
I miss our friends in CA, but can work here and make the same money, so can she.
I do not want to go, I think it's going to be a drought/fire/BLM summer and as soon as a new strain of COVID hits, lockdowns and more.
I am at an impasse. I could stay (she offered it) but lose my family, or go and just deal with the insanity.
I am going to move back because my family comes first but am extremely aggravated and sad to leave a place where they value God, the USA and freedom.
Sorry to vent. We have 7 years until the little one graduates HS, so I will hold out until then.
Anyway, anyone else heard of a blue state exodus who does a U-turn in 9 months?
No exposure to worldly things, more blue collar, less sophistication
Wow, that place sounds great.
Not everybody is cut out for the small town life.
I wish I could live in a small town.
It take longer than no e months to overcome the brainwashing. Give it another year. I felt he same way when we moved the Hong Kong
OMG don’t do it!! CA. native and I can’t wait to get the hell out of here!! I am presently caring for my 92 year old mom as soon as she passes I am headed to Idaho and I WILL NEVER make a U turn NEVER!! Is your wife crazy everyday this state is becoming more of a slum, how could your wife possibly THINK there is more sophistication here!! The schools are indoctrinating kids in critical race theory and to HATE their country, is that really what your wife wants for your kids??
Seven years in SF schools. Your children should be thoroughly indoctrinated by then.
“Very Cosmopolitan”
You are the head of your household. Your wife has stated she will stay if you want. What's the issue?
It sounds as though your wife is bemoaning not so much the lack of "big city" culture there as the presence of "small-town" culture. So: What aspects, specifically, of small-town life does she hate?
Secondly, how could a split-up (your wife and children return to CA; you stay in ID) possibly be even "on the board" here? This fact, alone, points to grave problems having nothing to do with the choice between CA and ID.
Regards,
California is not going to get better any time soon. They lost population, so something is very wrong there.
As someone who has been a minority conservative in liberal areas for much of my life, I sympathize.
I can say that you can be a light and draw people away from liberalism.
So your wife is telling you that she is the head of the family, and that she will leave you if you don’t agree to live where she wants?
I understand compromise, but what you are describing sounds like an ultimatum.
Divorce is a nightmare, but I would seriously consider filing for divorce and custody of your children. BTW my ex did the same with me, and filed when I refused to move across the country to live near the interfering in-laws. Not sure about laws in ID, but here in TX the person wanting to move has to climb a legal mountain to leave TX with the children. We’re all still here years later.
I personally think this post is a “tongue in cheek” joke, but many will take the bait.
Find a new place that works for you all. Salt Lake City? Maybe someplace in the Southeast or Southwest?
You could probably hold the Idaho house for a bit as it appreciates. Rent first in your new location to make sure it’s right for you.
Your problem is your wife
Maybe beautiful and great passion....all great things...I mean hear is good
But ultimatums are wrong..
Conservatives don’t place high value on what you claim she does
I cannnot envision my wife or even a prior girlfriend dictating to me that we move back somewhere she knows I don’t want to or she’ll move back on her own,
I mean damn partner
That’s not good
WHAT SORT OF “CONSERVATIVE” THINKS BOISE IS A BACKWATER
An elitist woman used to getting her way....
Boise is a cool town
With plenty to offer....
She said HE could stay
That’s ominous ..
Because you’re not hardcore Cronos
No offense
She knows I hate everything but the weather in CA.
She knows I will be miserable there.
She hates it here, even in a nice home with good schools.
There are other CA refugees here she knows (all women) who want to go back to Walnut Creek/Lafayette area. People here are not very open and are very happy with quads and Bud Lite.
I don’t want to lose my family.
Our compromise is to buy a small investment house we can keep here if SHTF.
If she thinks Boise is backwater she won’t like SLC either...
I love SLC to be clear....prettiest women in america arguably
Do you want your kids growing up to hate you? Avoid the California Indoctrination Camps then.
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