“Very Cosmopolitan”
No exposure to worldly things, more blue collar, less sophistication
Wow, that place sounds great.
Not everybody is cut out for the small town life.
I wish I could live in a small town.
It take longer than no e months to overcome the brainwashing. Give it another year. I felt he same way when we moved the Hong Kong
OMG don’t do it!! CA. native and I can’t wait to get the hell out of here!! I am presently caring for my 92 year old mom as soon as she passes I am headed to Idaho and I WILL NEVER make a U turn NEVER!! Is your wife crazy everyday this state is becoming more of a slum, how could your wife possibly THINK there is more sophistication here!! The schools are indoctrinating kids in critical race theory and to HATE their country, is that really what your wife wants for your kids??
Seven years in SF schools. Your children should be thoroughly indoctrinated by then.
“Very Cosmopolitan”
You are the head of your household. Your wife has stated she will stay if you want. What's the issue?
It sounds as though your wife is bemoaning not so much the lack of "big city" culture there as the presence of "small-town" culture. So: What aspects, specifically, of small-town life does she hate?
Secondly, how could a split-up (your wife and children return to CA; you stay in ID) possibly be even "on the board" here? This fact, alone, points to grave problems having nothing to do with the choice between CA and ID.
Regards,
California is not going to get better any time soon. They lost population, so something is very wrong there.
As someone who has been a minority conservative in liberal areas for much of my life, I sympathize.
I can say that you can be a light and draw people away from liberalism.
So your wife is telling you that she is the head of the family, and that she will leave you if you don’t agree to live where she wants?
I understand compromise, but what you are describing sounds like an ultimatum.
Divorce is a nightmare, but I would seriously consider filing for divorce and custody of your children. BTW my ex did the same with me, and filed when I refused to move across the country to live near the interfering in-laws. Not sure about laws in ID, but here in TX the person wanting to move has to climb a legal mountain to leave TX with the children. We’re all still here years later.
I personally think this post is a “tongue in cheek” joke, but many will take the bait.
Find a new place that works for you all. Salt Lake City? Maybe someplace in the Southeast or Southwest?
You could probably hold the Idaho house for a bit as it appreciates. Rent first in your new location to make sure it’s right for you.
Your problem is your wife
Maybe beautiful and great passion....all great things...I mean hear is good
But ultimatums are wrong..
Conservatives don’t place high value on what you claim she does
I cannnot envision my wife or even a prior girlfriend dictating to me that we move back somewhere she knows I don’t want to or she’ll move back on her own,
I mean damn partner
That’s not good
WHAT SORT OF “CONSERVATIVE” THINKS BOISE IS A BACKWATER
An elitist woman used to getting her way....
Boise is a cool town
With plenty to offer....
Do you want your kids growing up to hate you? Avoid the California Indoctrination Camps then.
My youngest son arrived in 8th grade. He had an IEP in San Diego. Idaho dropped the ball on that. In time, he dropped out of school. He regrets that decision, but refuses to make any effort to improve even given the resources to do so. The schools in San Diego were not good, but Idaho was not an improvement. My oldest son was admitted to Idaho State University to pursue a degree in Geology. He died May 12, 2012. Age 32. A poor choice of antibiotics for a person with 4 open heart surgeries, 2 artificial valves, a pacemaker and ongoing need for Coumadin. #2 son returned from his USMC tour in Iraq. He has earned degrees in Business Admin and Physics and scratches out a living as a real estate broker.
Idaho culture doesn't fit everyone. Boise was too "big city" and California-like for my tastes. I chose the southeast area for big houses and access to national parks. Low population density and little traffic.
“She is conservative”
Eventually they get tired of pretending
Is it really putting your family first by letting her make the call?
Will it cause her to lose respect for you, will it be the last chance you had to avoid being cowed into obeying for your rest of your days?
Is that really in your kids interest, or she is rationalizing what she wants using them to force and justify it.
Raising children in CA insanity is child neglect/abuse IMHO. It is impossible to be sane enough to flee CA, yet insane enough to return. Insane all along is the only explanation.
Story of when a p-whooped man is hands ultimate family authority to a woman wearing your pants. /s
I seem to recall a similar story from the bible, something about looking back and turning into a pillar of salt.