I Told My Boyfriend How Many People I’d Slept with…and He Didn’t Like the Answer

Yahoo ^ | 06/19/2019

[Responsibility2nd]

“My boyfriend can’t get over how many people I’ve slept with. I shouldn’t have told him, but he pressed me for the info. He was 'nerdy’ for most of high school and college, and just started coming into his own in his mid to late 20s. I have been dating consistently for years, and have had my fair share of hookups and relationships. And while I don’t think my number is crazy at all, he can’t deal with the discrepancy. We’ve been dating for two years and we’re serious. I don’t want to break up. How can I handle this?”

I agree that you probably shouldn’t have told him, but lots of people fall into the trap of discussing their sexual history with their current partner, and I get it. If you trust someone, it’s natural to want to talk about what you’ve learned from past relationships and sexual experiences. That said, numbers really aren’t necessary, and rarely do anything aside from making one person feel bad.  

But you can’t go back, and his reaction may have provoked an important conversation. After all (and as you well know), this isn’t an issue of who has slept with more people. It’s about his comfort with his past, and it’s about both of you establishing that your needs are being met by this relationship.

First, you have to figure out the problem you’re tackling, because it will change the course of action.

[Bonemaker]

“168 posts and not a single Rodney Dangerfield joke.....168 posts and not a single Rodney Dangerfield joke.....”

“My wife gives good head...ache.

[tom h]

He needs to dump her. I read the situation in another post.

[arthurus]

If he asked the question then he is someone she should not want to pair up with even if she has had no previous partners. If she winds up long term with him she will be subject to constant suspicion and she is then with a guy who has not confidence in himself.

[Stravinsky]

A young neighbor couple, both very physically attractive and fully employed, waited until they officially got married for her to move in. Granted, they are JWs, so a very conservative upbringing in terms of sex, but still, this being Massachusetts, I was pleasantly surprised. Some people do hold off.

[commish]

Second, if you don't remember all their names, you're a slut.

That's easy, they were all named John.

[dfwgator]

One of my favorite Back To School lines:

Trendy Man:
Mr. Melon, your wife was just showing us her Klimt.

Thornton Melon:
You too, huh? She’s shown it to everybody.

Trendy Man:
Well, she’s very proud of it.

Thornton Melon:
I’m proud of mine too. I don’t go waving it around at parties, though.

[NorthMountain]

File this under, don’t ask a question you may not like the answer to.

Disagree. If I ask a question, it's because I want to know the truth. I may not like the truth, but at least I can make good decisions based on it. Making decisions based on lies is not wise.

[thoughtomator]

Medical statistics show it is overwhelmingly healthier to have children at a young age than to have them after age 40.

So yes, it is proper to say there is a proper age range that is ideal for childbearing - the numbers show this beyond a reasonable doubt. As far as limited goes, menopause, not my opinion, handles that one.

I can see a lot of people here have wholly internalized Sexual Revolution ethics to the point where they cannot even recognize traditional Judeo-Christian traditions any longer.

We have a LOT of work to do.

[montag813]

My wife was my first. Didn’t plan it. Many, many opportunities, but the chicks skanked me out.

[Vermont Lt]

I wonder if they still do that? At military college, we used to sit around on a week night, drink shots, and read them aloud in dramatic voice. There was not a lot to do in military college with very few women around.

[Tired of Taxes]

If he asked the question then he is someone she should not want to pair up with even if she has had no previous partners.

What's wrong with asking the question? It's important information to have.

[A_perfect_lady]

having them confirmed is a very good reason to ditch the bitch.

Men like that don't have the courage to ditch. They stay and criticize because they doubt they'll get anything better, and they resent it. If this were not true, she wouldn't be writing about what she should do: he would have made the decision for her. But he can't.

[thoughtomator]

a few of the ideas on the latter part of that list are worth another look

[A_perfect_lady]

Perhaps he has some beliefs on the matter that would compel him in certain ways.

Convenient beliefs, if they allow him to sleep with her for two years before coming to the conclusion that he needs to start vetting her for matrimony.

[Scrambler Bob]

Rich, sterile orphans.

[morphing libertarian]

surely a train would save her a lot of time.

[SunkenCiv]

The boyfriend is a dip****. The slut should dump him.

[NorthMountain]

Your denigration of men aside, it’s still a good reason to dump her.

[Bratch]

In the spirit of Mr. Dangerfield...

---

A man died and went to heaven...

As he stood in front of St. Peter at the Pearly Gates, he saw a huge wall of clocks behind him. He asked,

"What are all those clocks?"

St. Peter answered, "Those are Sex-Clocks. Everyone on Earth has a Sex-Clock. Every time you have sex the hands on your clock will move."

"Oh," said the man, "whose clock is that?"

"That's Mother Teresa's. The hands have never moved, indicating that she never had sex."

"Incredible," said the man. "What about that one? It's spinning like a stopwatch."

"That's the Kardishian clock. We had to combine them to preserve power."

"Where's my wife's clock?"

"Oh, it's in Jesus' office. He's using it as a fan."