Posted on 09/15/2017 8:15:38 PM PDT by BJ1
While there is something to the whole cow, milk, free argument, I don’t think people should get married because they feel lust, but the mores are chaste, and the wedding will bring instant sex. There is something to be said for choosing well, including sexual compatibility.
Let’s boil this down to the basics. Somewhere along the line, women relinquished their power and started screwing around rather aimlessly.
Why buy the milk, you stupid cows?
>>> I know I probably picked wrong with both my husbands. I didn’t know any better.<<<
I read an article some time back about the formula for happiness. Which was nothing more than a comparison of where your life is now, vs. your expectations. You could be a poor student and happy, as you don’t expect to not be poor. But if circumstances don’t change 10 years later you’d be unhappy. Aren’t women being told as girls to expect so much in life that isn’t really possible for most?
And that is the reason I think women tend to be more unhappy nowadays. They have been sold on a this fruity thinking that the world is their oyster....and part of that is having sex with lotsa men instead of settling down right away. Another bad move that lowers your odds of a happy marriage.
Men, meh they have tried to compromise with the new ways. They accept the short hair, the heavier weight, the added responsibility at home women expect. And yet women still are liable to be unhappy and give them the “I’m not in love with you anymore” speech. So men react and are less interested in marriage.
Yet it could be so much better if men and women just had more realistic expectations, viewed marriage as permanent and didn’t sleep around before marriage.
I saw that way too many times in my 20 years in the military.
HOMESTEAD rules over all.
It rules over marital law and child protection. A lawyer explained it to me in a very lengthly conversation. Popped my eyes wide open.
BUT, he said, Homestead is NOT discussed, it is censored, a lawyer can be attacked if they are too loud about it, it is covered up. But homestead is still law.
Homestead is numero uno, but lied about & denied to the max. But you must find a brave lawyer, and do lots of homework. It denies much power to the judiciary. Even mentioning it is frowned upon.
So you were likely denied on a technicality. Or needed the right lawyer. And the house may still be yours.
A lawyer, hush hush, spoke the forbidden words to me. It makes sense because Big Judiciary wants to keep control over men and the best way is illegally deny home ownership turning him back into a slave.
ALWAYS HOMESTEAD !
Picked wrong.
We choose the person who causes us the most pain. We repeat that until we really do learn the lessons.
My next wife will be from before the 1950's as soon as I get the time machine online.
There was no reason to read any further. If this is the mindset this woman has, no wonder she has trouble landing a good man.
If I were kicked to the curb, never again.
People with visible tattoos that cannot be covered by clothing (face, neck, hands) scream to the world that they did a stretch in the jailhouse (whether they actually did or not). Most respectable companies just will not hire them.
In the years ahead, I think a big industry will be tattoo removal!
You nailed it!
So just about everything she listed is a critique of moving away from religious, traditional cultural norms.
That said, my son 22, has been to three weddings of his peers this summer... with more to come.
The couples seem to have their grandfather’s and even great-grandparents view of life. And getting married and settling down seems to be a big part of it.
They are not all religious, but many are, and they all are committed to a future and a pretty conservative way of life.
Many years ago there was a film called Blast From the Past. In it was a young man who had been brought up isolated with fifties values. One of the more poignant parts of the film was when a 90’s homosexual character looked at the young mans stalwart values with wistfulness.
Resting Bitch Face: A person, girl especially, whose regular facial expression makes them look like a bitch.
-Urban Dictionary
Regards,
at age 14 your daughter’s wishes will be taken into consideration.
In most of my family work, a fourteen year old child who refuses to stay with one parent or refuses to leave another parent’s house, is not forced by courts to change house.
See what this is like in your area.
Amen, Brother.
Tony Asher: "When I was working on Wouldn’t It Be Nice he’d already finished the melody. He’d be banging away at the piano on this fun, bouncy song and so I started to write lyrics to it and he had nothing to do because his part was finished. So I got my yellow legal pad and I’m writing lyrics. Whatever I wrote he’s paying close attention because he’s got nothing else going on. There are so many notes in Wouldn’t It Be Nice that I thought I was gonna be there until hell freezes over. (laughs)"
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The best advice is NEVER marry someone you love. Marry someone who loves you.
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Truly the best advice I’ve ever heard. Well said.
I had a close call myself.
When she was in college she was sweet and wonderful.
She broke up with me and I was crushed—heartbroken.
Today (many years later) she is a (somewhat prominent) outspoken feminazi—totally crazy.
I had no clue.
(P.S. My one and only wife of twenty years is great—I really dodged the bullet.)
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