Posted on 09/15/2017 8:15:38 PM PDT by BJ1
If we get straight to the point and skip the BS that’s only used to soften the blow of painful facts, we can admit it’s hard to find a good man. Even if we take our standards, expectations, and delusional hopes off the table and really look at the situation for what it is, we can clearly see that we are not to blame for the lack of good men. No, we have society who can take the blame for this one.
Unfortunately, our culture has evolved in a way that has made finding a good man tough ― and they certainly don’t make them like they used to. So, why is it so damn hard to find an awesome guy who’s going to treat you right and not bail the first time temptation comes his way? Here are nine reasons.
1. Hookup culture has taken over. Although I would never knock hooking up, it has replaced dating and even relationships. Men don’t want to be with one woman only, if they have an entire buffet at their disposal.
2. People have too many options. While it’s good to have options, it can be bad when there are too many options. At any given moment a guy can sit down at a dating app and immediately have endless options of women from which to choose. Because of that, it’s hard for them to give one woman a shot for more than a hot minute.
3. Lots of guys are holding out for something “better.” It’s a sad thought, but in a world with so many options, people can become immersed in the idea that something better might be just around the corner. Because that’s the case, it’s hard to find a man who wants to commit when they’re thinking that the next woman they meet could be perfect ― whatever perfect is.
4. Marriage is becoming obsolete. Once upon a time, people couldn’t wait to get married. Although it was likely due to the fact that they would finally be able to have sex, the reality is that these days people are in no rush to get married, so therefore, they’re in no rush to get into a relationship or settle down. And if a guy’s friends aren’t married, he sure as hell won’t be the first one to do it.
5. Some men are intimidated by power. In comparison to the past few decades, women are more independent than ever. This success and power, for some reason, can be intimidating for some men who, perhaps, realize that they’ll never be the “man” his female partner is.
6. Technology has created distance. How can anyone possibly find a good man or anyone at all when we live in a world where technology rules and our most intimate relationships are with our iPhones? We can’t.
7. The “man-child” is a legitimate problem. A man-child is a just modern day term for a man who suffers from Peter Pan Syndrome: He does not want to grow up. If he grows up, he’d have to become responsible, get his act together, and even maybe find a girl and fall in love. Too many men just don’t want to do that.
8. Everyone has their baggage. No one is immune to having a rocky past, and sometimes that past can interfere with how that person moves forward ― if they move forward at all. Messy baggage can keep even the great guys in hiding for a long time.
9. Being phobic of commitment is accepted. We live in a world where being scared of commitment has simply become the norm. If a man doesn’t want to commit, people are rarely surprised. Since that’s the case, they’ll just keep on skipping out on commitment and sticking to hookup culture, because it’s so accepted.
‘Attracted’ is one thing. But someone who doesn’t look beyond mere physical attraction and income deserves all the loneliness and ridicule in the world. CHARACTER, integrity, empathy, Godliness, devotion. That’s what matters.
I just don’t see the point of getting married by the grace of God get over-ruled by a government.
Item 5 on her list is a big problem yes. Men don’t want their wives to try to “out-man” them. Most women have understood this for thousands of years - until maybe the last 30 years or so.
The problem with a 35-40 year old American woman as I saw it, was how to tell if they pick a guy for love, or because they have baby rabies? I am already divorced once and didn’t want to be unhappily married so some post-wall woman could have her baby. Especially after she probably rejected dozens of “nice guys” when she was younger for the “more exciting” type.
Even worse would be to get divorced and have to pay that woman child support. Ugh. In my eyes, your partner count matters. The closer to zero the better. Zero is ideal to me.
I can almost guarantee she is a lard-ass.
I will never understand that.
>>>I just don’t see the point of getting married by the grace of God get over-ruled by a government.<<<
I 100% agree. I went abroad to try to do an end run around feminism. But marriage is a complete joke with the state in complete control. The state can say your marriage is over against your will, for no reason whatsoever. Then force the man to in slavery conditions to pay his ex wife money each month. She’s not sleeping with him anymore or cleaning his house. When I quit a job or get fired, I don’t expect to still get paid.
And when you see the quality of the celebrities women admire, it’s enough to say whoa, too much crazy, too much risk, too little reward. Especially since modern women expect their men to do half the chores.
Snowflake glasses and the sour is starting to weigh her face down, RBF upcoming in a few years. Nice big tat, teal butterfly. Tasteful, very tasteful. No doubt “strong and independent.” Maybe there’s some perfect dude sitting on a shelf like a Ken doll just waiting for her to make him miserable.
“The problem with Asian wives is that they’re really interested in settling down and having a family..”
You’re wrong. The way it works is this: An Asian woman gets a white guy as her regular guy (not black - they’re worried about blacks), then she tries to get him to marry her. If that works, she wants to move to America, then wants to bring her family over. Along the way, she has a kid with the guy. Then she files for divorce, gets the house, gets alimony and has her family moved into her house. The guy is left with nothing except the liabilities.
She missed the number one reason - feminazism.
Who the hell wants to have more than a hookup (if even that) with some skanky man hater. Incredibly enough she puts hooking up as the number one reason, but then she quickly says she has nothing against hook ups. That’s how stupid feminism is - they don’t realize that in hooking up they’re giving away their most valuable negotiating card for free!! What pathetic losers!
I’m sure nice girls that respect themselves have no trouble finding a good man.
Yeah, but she wouldn’t love you for you. You’d always know she was just in it for the paycheck.
besides their vajayjay, what does the typical woman bring to the table in regards to marriage? I’d really like to know what other men think.
Its funny I am glad this thread popped up tonight because I was feeling worse than I ever have tonight knowing that it is impossible to find that love that I crave and I believe should exist between a man and a woman....but I cannot imagine signing up for this abuse again. I have a beautiful 13 year old daughter, and you know how my ex's father and lawyer see that -- as LEVERAGE! My daughter wants to live with me and my ex is litigating to the end of the earth costing hundreds of thousands of dollars hoping that I will eventually throw in the towel or not be able to afford the fight. This is how the family court system is stacked against men. This is unjust. We will see what happens.
As for my ex girlfriend, while I am sad the relationship ended, because we are not married and because she moved on, I have no legal issues, no expensive divorce, no expensive financial or social investigation. and I am grateful...I think the answer to this dilemma is the same as for the malpractice crises -- cap lawyer fees for any divorce at $100,000 and the minute that generous threshold is met -- the divorce will end because the entire family court system from financial neutrals to social investigators is in on the scam of draining people of their financial resources...
Amen brother
absolutely nothing — complete liability, no assets...
I always like to see the faces of the losers who write these pearl of wisdom. They usually speak volumes.
No argument with your words.
The greatest reason is that men and women are turning away from a Judeo-Christian outlook. Even secular romantic ideals of a life together as the ultimate and only pure romance is passé.
Another reason is that young people do not know how GREAT babies are. I have six offspring and if I had prepared wisely and prudently it would be nice to have seven or eight children.
When I was in my 20s I gave no thought to children at all.
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