Posted on 09/15/2017 8:15:38 PM PDT by BJ1
If we get straight to the point and skip the BS that’s only used to soften the blow of painful facts, we can admit it’s hard to find a good man. Even if we take our standards, expectations, and delusional hopes off the table and really look at the situation for what it is, we can clearly see that we are not to blame for the lack of good men. No, we have society who can take the blame for this one.
Unfortunately, our culture has evolved in a way that has made finding a good man tough ― and they certainly don’t make them like they used to. So, why is it so damn hard to find an awesome guy who’s going to treat you right and not bail the first time temptation comes his way? Here are nine reasons.
1. Hookup culture has taken over. Although I would never knock hooking up, it has replaced dating and even relationships. Men don’t want to be with one woman only, if they have an entire buffet at their disposal.
2. People have too many options. While it’s good to have options, it can be bad when there are too many options. At any given moment a guy can sit down at a dating app and immediately have endless options of women from which to choose. Because of that, it’s hard for them to give one woman a shot for more than a hot minute.
3. Lots of guys are holding out for something “better.” It’s a sad thought, but in a world with so many options, people can become immersed in the idea that something better might be just around the corner. Because that’s the case, it’s hard to find a man who wants to commit when they’re thinking that the next woman they meet could be perfect ― whatever perfect is.
4. Marriage is becoming obsolete. Once upon a time, people couldn’t wait to get married. Although it was likely due to the fact that they would finally be able to have sex, the reality is that these days people are in no rush to get married, so therefore, they’re in no rush to get into a relationship or settle down. And if a guy’s friends aren’t married, he sure as hell won’t be the first one to do it.
5. Some men are intimidated by power. In comparison to the past few decades, women are more independent than ever. This success and power, for some reason, can be intimidating for some men who, perhaps, realize that they’ll never be the “man” his female partner is.
6. Technology has created distance. How can anyone possibly find a good man or anyone at all when we live in a world where technology rules and our most intimate relationships are with our iPhones? We can’t.
7. The “man-child” is a legitimate problem. A man-child is a just modern day term for a man who suffers from Peter Pan Syndrome: He does not want to grow up. If he grows up, he’d have to become responsible, get his act together, and even maybe find a girl and fall in love. Too many men just don’t want to do that.
8. Everyone has their baggage. No one is immune to having a rocky past, and sometimes that past can interfere with how that person moves forward ― if they move forward at all. Messy baggage can keep even the great guys in hiding for a long time.
9. Being phobic of commitment is accepted. We live in a world where being scared of commitment has simply become the norm. If a man doesn’t want to commit, people are rarely surprised. Since that’s the case, they’ll just keep on skipping out on commitment and sticking to hookup culture, because it’s so accepted.
“Although I would never knock hooking up——”
Hooking up !!!!!!
Why don’t they call it what it really is?
(I won’t post it-—too shy.) :-)
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Ping.
How relationships have changed since this song was released
May 16, 1966:
“Wouldn’t it be nice if we were older?
Then we wouldn’t have to wait so long
And wouldn’t it be nice to live together
In the kind of world where we belong
You know it’s gonna make it that much better
When we can say goodnight and stay together
Wouldn’t it be nice if we could wake up
In the morning when the day is new?
And after having spent the day together
Hold each other close the whole night through
Happy times together we’ve been spending
I wish that every kiss was never ending
Wouldn’t it be nice?
Maybe if we think, and wish, and hope, and pray, it might come true
Baby, then there wouldn’t be a single thing we couldn’t do
We could be married
And then we’d be happy
Wouldn’t it be nice?
You know it seems the more we talk about it
It only makes it worse to live without it
But let’s talk about it
Wouldn’t it be nice?”
Having been dragged through the family court system against my will for the last FOUR years, I can say that it is very easy solution. Let a woman suffer what men have to suffer at the hands of the so called court and experts, have every thing in your life put under a microscope where you are presumed guilty before anything else, and it is easy to say screw it...never going there again. If women suffered what the inherent bias (prejudice?) that men face in family court this would be over in a hot minute. And then this woman has the audacity to bitch about no good men can be found — it is HORSE CRAP...They have driven good men to not being willing to be abused, battered, maligned and crucified ever again. I am sorry to say but the women’s movement combined with political correctness has forever taken away the ability to find a loving man who is willing to give his life for her — because we are scarred and scared, and have been abused in plain sight.
How about “Experienced Mattress Pilot.” ;-)
Load of malarky.
There are PLENTY of ‘good guys’.
Every woman wants a guy who looks like George Clooney, makes $500K a year and doesn’t care if they gain 75 lbs 3 years after the wedding.
Saying there aren’t *MILLIONS* of good Men is so ignorant as to be babbling, not even insult.
That’s a quote from The Happy Hooker by Xaviera Hollander!
That works-—and a lot nicer than what I would call it.
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Dry white toast?
“If I ever lost current wife of 17 years....Asia is where I’d look.”
The problem with Asian wives is that they’re really interested in settling down and having a family - unlike the party animals in this country.
Come to think of it...
>>>Load of malarky.
There are PLENTY of ‘good guys’.<<<
Some guys in the manosphere believe in the 80/20 rule. 80% of women are attracted to the same 20% of the most successful/handsome men. The rest of the men are no better than mediocre. That’s what a lot of men think about female nature.
If these wymmyn want a better chance at finding a good man, start by not turning your body into a giant flesh-eating bacteria billboard known as tattooing.
Unless you own nothing, like teen years,
never commit unless you talked to plenty of lawyers,
and have a well written contract,
and protected or hidden your assets.
Always prenup.
Pay off house first,
and homestead house,
before a woman.
She can never take that house.
So so true...
I got me a wife from the Philippines. She dotes on our son, keeps the house clean and is generally mild mannered. A potential problem with “asian” women is most are not Christian. The Philippines is the only majority Catholic/Christian country in asia I think.
“You want butter or jam on that toast?”
RBF?
HOMESTEAD your fully owned house.
Then PRENUP.
Good for you! Mine is from that part of the world also. Married me because I told her that wanted to settle down and have a family. American girls under 35 would run for the hills hearing that. And, of course, the ones over 35 have more history than the Middle East.
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