Posted on 09/15/2017 8:15:38 PM PDT by BJ1
If we get straight to the point and skip the BS that’s only used to soften the blow of painful facts, we can admit it’s hard to find a good man. Even if we take our standards, expectations, and delusional hopes off the table and really look at the situation for what it is, we can clearly see that we are not to blame for the lack of good men. No, we have society who can take the blame for this one.
Unfortunately, our culture has evolved in a way that has made finding a good man tough ― and they certainly don’t make them like they used to. So, why is it so damn hard to find an awesome guy who’s going to treat you right and not bail the first time temptation comes his way? Here are nine reasons.
1. Hookup culture has taken over. Although I would never knock hooking up, it has replaced dating and even relationships. Men don’t want to be with one woman only, if they have an entire buffet at their disposal.
2. People have too many options. While it’s good to have options, it can be bad when there are too many options. At any given moment a guy can sit down at a dating app and immediately have endless options of women from which to choose. Because of that, it’s hard for them to give one woman a shot for more than a hot minute.
3. Lots of guys are holding out for something “better.” It’s a sad thought, but in a world with so many options, people can become immersed in the idea that something better might be just around the corner. Because that’s the case, it’s hard to find a man who wants to commit when they’re thinking that the next woman they meet could be perfect ― whatever perfect is.
4. Marriage is becoming obsolete. Once upon a time, people couldn’t wait to get married. Although it was likely due to the fact that they would finally be able to have sex, the reality is that these days people are in no rush to get married, so therefore, they’re in no rush to get into a relationship or settle down. And if a guy’s friends aren’t married, he sure as hell won’t be the first one to do it.
5. Some men are intimidated by power. In comparison to the past few decades, women are more independent than ever. This success and power, for some reason, can be intimidating for some men who, perhaps, realize that they’ll never be the “man” his female partner is.
6. Technology has created distance. How can anyone possibly find a good man or anyone at all when we live in a world where technology rules and our most intimate relationships are with our iPhones? We can’t.
7. The “man-child” is a legitimate problem. A man-child is a just modern day term for a man who suffers from Peter Pan Syndrome: He does not want to grow up. If he grows up, he’d have to become responsible, get his act together, and even maybe find a girl and fall in love. Too many men just don’t want to do that.
8. Everyone has their baggage. No one is immune to having a rocky past, and sometimes that past can interfere with how that person moves forward ― if they move forward at all. Messy baggage can keep even the great guys in hiding for a long time.
9. Being phobic of commitment is accepted. We live in a world where being scared of commitment has simply become the norm. If a man doesn’t want to commit, people are rarely surprised. Since that’s the case, they’ll just keep on skipping out on commitment and sticking to hookup culture, because it’s so accepted.
More than a few men are divorced and remember what it was about the ex(s) that caused a problem. Trying to cull the herd to avoid that is not so easy. Many women may exhibit similar traits, if that can be called waiting for perfection:
Lack of interest in physical appearance/shape.
Bitchy just for the sake of being bitchy (see "resting bitchy face")
Self absorbed and full of self help book and Cosmo bullshit.
Incompatible political outlook.
If this pig thinks that avoiding that which was an issue in n previous marriage is waiting for perfection......Many men may see it as not making the same expensive mistake again.
I can understand being lonely but I will not sell out my life to some bloodsucker that will leave me lonely and broke.
Oh, you’re right. They look just as ridiculous and stupid on men. Especially hipster douches trying to prove how “masculine” they are, as if tats and facial hair will make up for the fact they barely register as male.
“realize that they’ll never be the “man” his female partner is.”
this appears to be either referring to wimpy metrosexuals or ball-busting harpys or perhaps both.
I darn near found that woman in 1992.
That was a close call.
2 months later she was all over the wymins movement crap.
“The way it works is this: An Asian woman gets a white guy as her regular guy (not black - they’re worried about blacks), then she tries to get him to marry her. If that works, she wants to move to America, then wants to bring her family over. Along the way, she has a kid with the guy. Then she files for divorce, gets the house, gets alimony and has her family moved into her house. The guy is left with nothing except the liabilities.”
I’ve personally seen that exact thing happen.
....”what does the typical woman bring to the table in regards to marriage?”....
Since you’re not looking at the exceptional ..define typical women....
Then how did my first wife get the house I bought as a single person with a VA loan?
And who wants to be "good", anyway? :)
“Just find a woman that hates you, buy her a house, then give her half your pay until she thinks you paid enough”
at least that saves the lawyer fees
A friend of mine wanted to marry a Russian girl. Last I saw of him, he was supporting her family, and she was delaying coming over.
Oh gee....he fell for the Russian Gal ‘trap’.....Ukrainians do that as well. Long distance $$$$$$ scams...how does he know if it’s actually a gal?
I would NEVER get married again. I’m thankfully married to a foreigner. You know the tune “American woman just get away...by Guess who”
To American men, I recommend NEVER getting married, especially to an American woman. All the cards are against you.
Better to be broke than stuck in a marriage with someone you don’t love.
I saw pictures supposedly of her. She had the slate cheeks of the Slavs and could be considered as attractive. He is native American from the Pacific Northwest and blinded by love. I don’t know how it turned out.
>Some guys in the manosphere believe in the 80/20 rule. 80% of women are attracted to the same 20% of the most successful/handsome men. The rest of the men are no better than mediocre. That’s what a lot of men think about female nature.
80/20 hasn’t been proven. What has been proven is women marry up in status and men marry down in status. In most patriarchal civilizations women’s status is kept low so whoever they marry is an upgrade. In liberated societies most women have much higher status than men making their choices when marrying up quite limited. So the most attractive and high status section of the male population who have so many women approaching them that they don’t bother getting married while the men on the lower end have few prospects for marriage beyond well used up sluts who make awful wives.
Metro-men aren’t any better.....they do just the opposite and shave everything off I understand! All go to one extreme or the other ....and that’s both sexes. There is a comfortable middle ground with room to wiggle! Few that recognize there’s a difference between trends and style/class.
Well, you said you disagreed with my advice.
I must surmise you do not love your other. Then why marry?
>Ugh. In my eyes, your partner count matters. The closer to zero the better. Zero is ideal to me.
It should matter. The ability to bond declines with the more partners a women has. Men suffer the same decline, but at 1/4th the rate.
You fell for the "If you really loved me, you'd put me on the title" line.
Been there done that, paid the price.
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