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9 Reasons It’s So Hard to Find a Good Man
Bolde.com ^ | Amanda Chatel

Posted on 09/15/2017 8:15:38 PM PDT by BJ1

If we get straight to the point and skip the BS that’s only used to soften the blow of painful facts, we can admit it’s hard to find a good man. Even if we take our standards, expectations, and delusional hopes off the table and really look at the situation for what it is, we can clearly see that we are not to blame for the lack of good men. No, we have society who can take the blame for this one.

Unfortunately, our culture has evolved in a way that has made finding a good man tough ― and they certainly don’t make them like they used to. So, why is it so damn hard to find an awesome guy who’s going to treat you right and not bail the first time temptation comes his way? Here are nine reasons.

1. Hookup culture has taken over. Although I would never knock hooking up, it has replaced dating and even relationships. Men don’t want to be with one woman only, if they have an entire buffet at their disposal.

2. People have too many options. While it’s good to have options, it can be bad when there are too many options. At any given moment a guy can sit down at a dating app and immediately have endless options of women from which to choose. Because of that, it’s hard for them to give one woman a shot for more than a hot minute.

3. Lots of guys are holding out for something “better.” It’s a sad thought, but in a world with so many options, people can become immersed in the idea that something better might be just around the corner. Because that’s the case, it’s hard to find a man who wants to commit when they’re thinking that the next woman they meet could be perfect ― whatever perfect is.

4. Marriage is becoming obsolete. Once upon a time, people couldn’t wait to get married. Although it was likely due to the fact that they would finally be able to have sex, the reality is that these days people are in no rush to get married, so therefore, they’re in no rush to get into a relationship or settle down. And if a guy’s friends aren’t married, he sure as hell won’t be the first one to do it.

5. Some men are intimidated by power. In comparison to the past few decades, women are more independent than ever. This success and power, for some reason, can be intimidating for some men who, perhaps, realize that they’ll never be the “man” his female partner is.

6. Technology has created distance. How can anyone possibly find a good man or anyone at all when we live in a world where technology rules and our most intimate relationships are with our iPhones? We can’t.

7. The “man-child” is a legitimate problem. A man-child is a just modern day term for a man who suffers from Peter Pan Syndrome: He does not want to grow up. If he grows up, he’d have to become responsible, get his act together, and even maybe find a girl and fall in love. Too many men just don’t want to do that.

8. Everyone has their baggage. No one is immune to having a rocky past, and sometimes that past can interfere with how that person moves forward ― if they move forward at all. Messy baggage can keep even the great guys in hiding for a long time.

9. Being phobic of commitment is accepted. We live in a world where being scared of commitment has simply become the norm. If a man doesn’t want to commit, people are rarely surprised. Since that’s the case, they’ll just keep on skipping out on commitment and sticking to hookup culture, because it’s so accepted.


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Lotsa guys like me have been critical of western women. Well I figure turn about is fair game. Here's an article from the other side.
1 posted on 09/15/2017 8:15:38 PM PDT by BJ1
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To: BJ1

Beware the RBF and “crazy eyes” types. Run, do not walk away. No sane individual needs that crap.


2 posted on 09/15/2017 8:21:01 PM PDT by Noumenon (Can you imagine if Islam were NOT the religion of peace?)
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I’m happy to report that today’s women are strong and smart. Congratulations! Unfortunately, I prefer women who are weak and stupid.


3 posted on 09/15/2017 8:21:06 PM PDT by DIRTYSECRET (urope. Why do they put up with this.)
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If I ever lost current wife of 17 years....Asia is where I’d look.


4 posted on 09/15/2017 8:22:06 PM PDT by wyowolf (Be ware when the preachers take over the Republican party...)
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10. Famous over-protection by Courts, cops, counselors, CPS, lawyers and many others.

A guy has to factor allllll that into the equation.


5 posted on 09/15/2017 8:22:33 PM PDT by gaijin
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To: BJ1
the author of this article


6 posted on 09/15/2017 8:24:26 PM PDT by gaijin
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To: BJ1

A hard man is good to find.
— My ex said this to me once.


7 posted on 09/15/2017 8:24:35 PM PDT by central_va (I won't be reconstructed and I do not give a damn.)
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To: BJ1

With very few exceptions,this list,replacing men with women could be easily called,It’s Just as Hard to Find a Good Woman. The point is made the same in today’s society for both sexes.


8 posted on 09/15/2017 8:25:37 PM PDT by shanover (...To disarm the people is the best and most effectual way to enslave them.-S.Adams)
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Because I’m already taken.


9 posted on 09/15/2017 8:25:59 PM PDT by P.O.E. (Pray for America)
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we can clearly see that we are not to blame for the lack of good men. No, we have society who can take the blame for this one.

Of course, puts no blame on women as a whole. No agency for her. Maybe she's part of the problem.

10 posted on 09/15/2017 8:26:15 PM PDT by wastedyears (Anime is real.)
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To: gaijin; All

Check out the documentaries RED PILL and DIVORCE, INC.

Read the book THE MYTH OF MALE POWER for starters.


11 posted on 09/15/2017 8:27:06 PM PDT by TigerClaws
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To: P.O.E.

>>>Because I’m already taken.<<<

Your wife sounds like a lucky lady.


12 posted on 09/15/2017 8:29:10 PM PDT by BJ1
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Let the women marry the government.


13 posted on 09/15/2017 8:30:07 PM PDT by eyedigress ((Old storm chaser from the west))
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And I’m a lucky man to have found her.


14 posted on 09/15/2017 8:30:48 PM PDT by P.O.E. (Pray for America)
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Hookup culture has taken over. Although I would never knock hooking up, it has replaced dating and even relationships.

She won't knock it, yet laments that it has taken over.
15 posted on 09/15/2017 8:30:53 PM PDT by Army Air Corps (Four Fried Chickens and a Coke)
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There is one reason and one reason only as to why women can not get a man to commit or marry them. ‘Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free.’

Feminism has turned women into whores and told them that they should like it that way. Almost all her ‘reasons’ revolved around this simple fact. Men can have sex with woman and not commit to even a date. Women allow them to do this. If women didn’t allow it, men would not do it.


16 posted on 09/15/2017 8:32:48 PM PDT by Jim from C-Town (The government is rarely benevolent, often malevolent and never benign!)
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17 posted on 09/15/2017 8:34:13 PM PDT by Lmo56 (If ya wanna run with the big dawgs - ya gotta learn to piss in the tall grass ..)
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To: Army Air Corps

>>>Hookup culture has taken over. Although I would never knock hooking up, it has replaced dating and even relationships.

She won’t knock it, yet laments that it has taken over.<<<<

Translation: She likes slutting it up.


18 posted on 09/15/2017 8:34:24 PM PDT by BJ1
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5. Some men are intimidated by power. In comparison to the past few decades, women are more independent than ever.

Are we talking about genuine independence or that overbearing, emasculating "Grrrl Powah" schtick?
19 posted on 09/15/2017 8:34:38 PM PDT by Army Air Corps (Four Fried Chickens and a Coke)
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Bingo. And yet, she fails to notice a correlation.


20 posted on 09/15/2017 8:36:23 PM PDT by Army Air Corps (Four Fried Chickens and a Coke)
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