Posted on 04/05/2021 3:27:40 PM PDT by CheshireTheCat
For the young ones… and the mature, as needs be…
Many people marry for the wrong reasons and end up single, often with obligations, and holding a cynical view of love and relationships. But a short, simple test can help guide you toward what a successful marriage may look like.
If you and your potential spouse can both answer “yes” to most or all four of these questions, then you may end up with a great marriage. Of course, there are no guarantees. Life always has a way of surprising us.
Ask yourself each question. Can you say yes to each?
1) If this person stays just as he or she is for the rest of his or her life, would that be OK?
2) Would you like to become more like this person?
3) If you were to have a child with someone, would you want to have a child with this person?
4) If the child grew up to be exactly like this person, would that be OK?
I once got a call from my wife. She was at the home of a friend whose daughter was going to be married in one week to her high school sweetheart. She was visiting her mother, crying and upset, unsure whether the marriage was a good idea....
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Beware if he has kids with her. Search engine: parental alienation, golden uterus syndrome
+1.
Bully for you, T-c!
Send him this
1) If this person stays just as he or she is for the rest of his or her life, would that be OK?
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As is often said. A man marries a woman hoping she won’t change, but she does. A woman marries a man hoping that he will change, but he does not.
These are good questions, and even after 37 yrs of marriage I would say yes to them, more enthusiastically today than then.
The flaw is in the person answering the questions. Those couples in the zone I call The Feverish Nuptials (that period of time leading up to a wedding where you actually cannot talk them out of it, even if the other person is a felon, a cannibal, a druggie and an abuser, just because love), will say yes even against the testimony of friends and family.
Yep many wonen are stupid and think they can change the guy. Not happening.
Your dad sounds great. A real catch.
I like that term fixer upper. Will share that with my daughter.
No man should marry until that statement is fully understood as fact. Once they understand this then they can enter the marriage and be reasonably happy.
If she’s said “Yes” four times before, don’t be number five...
Actually, All Women are Crazy except my Mom.
Don’t ask my Dad
The father of my first wife told me fifteen minutes before I walked down the aisle that I was "fuc*ing nuts." I asked him why he didn't tell me that a day earlier. He laughed. He was right.
"May you put up with each other".
If anybody needs marriage advise I’m available. I’m an expert having been married three times. I’m also an expert on divorces having coincidentally been divorced three times.
There was only one statement... “If you wanna know what she is gonna be like 30 years from now, take a good look at the mother n law...” I didnt listen... ended up divorced!
it’s always been my philosophy to never buy a car that’s been repainted and never date a woman that wears a lot of makeup because you never know what’s underneath...
Bondo...that’s the ticket.
;>)
Former Senator Bill Frist was about to be married (a big expensive society wedding I’m sure) and found himself in bed with a woman other than his fiancee a few days before the wedding date. He called off the wedding.
It might be best to have a family friend or relative he really likes talk with him.
Even if the guy did everything the wife wanted, she’d have list all respect for him because he can’t stand up for himself or see everything before she had to call it all out.
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