Posted on 06/18/2024 3:47:07 AM PDT by fwdude
Before the 1960s, it was really hard to get divorced in America.
Typically, the only way to do it was to convince a judge that your spouse had committed some form of wrongdoing, like adultery, abandonment, or “cruelty” (that is, abuse). This could be difficult: “Even if you could prove you had been hit, that didn’t necessarily mean it rose to the level of cruelty that justified a divorce,” said Marcia Zug, a family law professor at the University of South Carolina.
Then came a revolution: In 1969, then-Gov. Ronald Reagan of California (who was himself divorced) signed the nation’s first no-fault divorce law, allowing people to end their marriages without proving they’d been wronged. The move was a recognition that “people were going to get out of marriages,” Zug said, and gave them a way to do that without resorting to subterfuge. Similar laws soon swept the country, and rates of domestic violence and spousal murder began to drop as people — especially women — gained more freedom to leave dangerous situations.
Today, … a counter-revolution is brewing: Conservative commentators and lawmakers are calling for an end to no-fault divorce, arguing that it has harmed men and even destroyed the fabric of society.
(Excerpt) Read more at vox.com ...
In cases of adultery or cruelty, “no fault” allows a quick and less expensive divorce without the need to share all the personal details in court.
This
God invented divorce. It is in the Bible. The reason for divorce is so the spouses don’t kill each other. I say this as a former divorce lawyer.
Doesn’t always work.
I am very sorry you had to go through all that, especially the DV.
In my case, my first wife and I dated for 5 years before tying the knot. Then it took a while (not too long) before it became a living hell.
I was dumb.
That is a wise idea. Knowing human nature "the heart wants" and the confusion of love/lust, I think it is easier said than done.
Don’t tell the lefty’s that. it would remove their simpleton narrative
See my prior comment on this thread.
Divorce has destroyed our family. While my wife and I are still married after 33 years, many others have divorced. The consequences to any form of ‘strong family’ are severe. Groups not talking to each other, never seeing each other. CHILDREN that don’t see their parents or extended family. GRANDPARENTS that rarely see any of their grandkids.
Mostly initiated by women - without abuse, addiction, or money troubles. The reasons are purely selfish...after the ‘romantic lie’ of ‘until death’. Clearly your vows mean absolutely nothing.
This is not about marriage. It’s about divorce. The good old days of allowing only mutually-agreed divorces fostered situations like my parents’ where men imprisoned their wives in institutions until they agreed to divorce. There is nothing Christian about returning to that system.
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The only winners in divorce are the attorneys....
“do not trick your spouse into thinking that you are agreeing to a lifelong commitment.”
And do not trick your spouse into believing that you’re not an abusive monster, or philanderer.
You forgot to add, "for lawyers".
The 11 Commandment: "Thou shalt not touch Shylock's revenue stream". LOL!
No.
Divorce is downstream from culture.
No…but the Left is coming for Christians.
I agree with your assessment of easy divorce ad I am also a female who has gone through a divorce in the past. Not only should women ( and men) not marry in haste but they should abstain from sexual intimacy until marriage. I would venture to say that early intimacy is often mistaken for “love” when it is, in reality, lust. That wears off and you are stuck with a person who shares very little of your vision for life.
And men were cheating constantly with most having mistresses.
You can’t go back to a history of once and never was.
I am actually sympathetic to cultures where the parents arrange marriages
As a parent, I feel confident I could pick a far better partner for my children than most of them could.
Life is complicated. Sometimes divorce is the better choice.
Maybe, but I have personally never witnessed divorce improve anyone’s life even when I was certain it had to.
In every case people simply repeated all the same mistakes or worse, just with a different person.
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