Posted on 01/05/2009 9:38:50 AM PST by EveningStar
Dennis and Sue were married December 31 by Rabbi Michael Gotlieb at his synagogue, Kehillat Ma'arav, in Santa Monica, California.
The former Susan Reed, known to all as Sue, was raised in the Los Angeles area...
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Modern for sure!
You said: Sometimes the stepmothers are more loving than the real mothers. If you think biology means people will be good parents, you are misinformed.
I don’t disagree with that. What I disagree with is that step parents are good for their spouse or the step-kids.
As I said they are not wicked as people, but as status. ‘’
Of course, I think I could press the issue a little ans say that if you are wicked as status you should not choose the status at least knowingly.
don’t worry about me PP, looks like you already have your work cut out for you here on this one
here’s yer shovel
Take a look at what Burt Prelutsky said about Dennis a few years ago (9th paragraph).
Pedro’s gay ?
yep...he used to rent from me.....he was dirt poor living on the edge of abject poverty and he got lucky
I know what you said but I still do not know what you MEAN. How can you broadbrush paint a “status” as wicked??? Unless it’s something like “serial killer?”
The status of step parent is wicked in the sense that it not the best relationship child to adult. Every child deserves an intact biological family; a bio mom and dad.
If the step parent is more loving than the bio parent, the child probably feels bad about it because the child’s deepest if unarticlated yearning is for their own bio parent.
If the step parent is less loving then we know what the child feels.
Even if a child does not have the feelings set forth above, the child is then lacking in a primal response which is natural and beneficial in so many ways.
Better to live alone if one is divorced with children. That is if one loves their children.
Why do you think that divorce is the only way for a child to have a stepparent?
My cousin’s husband died of cancer. She had three daughters and one was only an infant when her daddy died. Fortunately, she met a lovely man that ended up adopting all three and since they were so small, they have few memories of their bio dad. I know of other good examples as well and I also know of situations where one of the bio parents was downright evil or completely lost to drugs/alcohol.
While I do not feel comfortable about commenting on you personally (I don’t know you), your comments are completely ignorant and show a serious lack of thought.
You are correct in admonishing me about saying divorce. I should have said widowed also.
I am not against the people involved in these situations. I am concerned that step parent situations are not good for children and the parents regardless of their subjective feelings.
Please note that I set forth what can happen when step parent is both more and less loving than the bio parent.
I can also say that adopted children tend to yearn for their bio parents no matter how good their adoptive parents are.
There is power in biology and we should not forget it.
Best to Dennis and his new bride...
Their son, David, was born two years later. In August 1986 Janice filed for divorce.
On September 4, 1988, Prager married Francine Stone, an actress, in a Los Angeles synagogue. In November 1992, the couple adopted a son, Aaron Henry Prager.
On December 30, 2005, Prager announced on air that he and Stone were getting divorced.
On December 31st, 2008 Prager entered into his third marriage to Susan Reed.
You said, “I am concerned that step parent situations are not good for children and the parents regardless of their subjective feelings.”
Are you serious? The very subjective feelings of the children are absolutely the most important thing of all. I agree with you that many adopted children do wonder about their biological parents but there is a good reason for that - it’s a mystery and they often want to know the reasons they were cast aside. This is not so in a widow/widower situation. The children know what happened and if the new parent is loving it is a huge blessing to the children and the “step” parent as well.
I am in complete disagreement with all of your points and think you are very wrong. As a Christian, I am adopted into the family of God. I think adoption is wonderful and so I do not see biology the way you do. Love is far, far more powerful than biology. I don’t want to underestimate biology b/c I think there is a lot to nature insofar as our personalities. There is also useful information regarding our health status. However, love is powerful and strong and I think it trumps biology ANY day.
I like his show too but he does come across as pompous sometimes. Nobody’s perfect though.
I wish I understood what you were trying to say. Shovel???? My work cut out for me??????
Oy!
I, too am a Christian and I hope that I understand God’s will for human beings. I do think, and you will most likely agree, that children deserve that intact, biological family that God ordained from the beginning. Original sin explains death of a parent and divorce. Christ overcame death and condemned divorce.
That said, I must disagree with you. I realize I am saying things way out of the current social norm, but that does not mean my position is wrong. I think it is God’s position. I remember a woman on the Tonight Show saying she never remarried after her husband died because no one was good enough to raise her husband’s children. Not because there were not good people out there, but because her husband was their father.
Further, the subjective feelings of children are NOT absolutely the most important thing of all. What is good for the children in God’s plan is the most important thing regardless of transient feelings.
By the way, I hear that Laura Schlessinger says about the same?
True. Everyone has his faults.
Among the things I like about Dennis:
— He’s thoughtful and insightful
— He strives to be truthful
— He tries to avoid hyperbole, name calling and bomb throwing
Because he has been married three times doesn't mean he doesn't have anything valuable to share on any other issues. If we can only get advice or insight or wisdom from perfect people, we wouldn't have anyone left to do that from. Heck, if he has looked honestly at why his first two marriages failed, he may be the perfect person to get marriage advice from too.
I concur with your thoughts. My faith has deepened, in fact, from listening to him. The more I know about Jewish laws and Jewish religious belief, the more I understand my own Christian beliefs. He’s also taught me a lot of very interesting things such as the reasoning behind not eating meat and dairy together or preparing them together.
Shalom to you my friend.
Well, we agree on the ideal. I have no quibble with you. However, the world is imperfect. Also, to tell a young mother who has lost her husband in Iraq or anywhere else that she should not marry for the reasons you state is, in my opinion, very harsh. I think you come from a position of someone who has been very fortunate in their life not to have been placed in a position such as this.
I am not so judgmental of others or so righteous about trying to tell others what to do. However, you are certainly allowed to hold your position - I think you are in the minority on this, particularly with regard to widows/widowers. Children need a mother AND a father. The REAL problem is that people often discard their child’s other parent too readily and jump into a new relationship without thought. I have a cousin who is about to embark on her 4th marriage - she has 3 daughters. Can you even imagine? The only good news in THIS story is that the daughters were born into the 2nd marriage so they were spared the emotional pain of Divorce #1. I think my cousin is selfish.
As for God’s plan and children’s feelings, you seem to know an awful lot about what God’s plan is for all of these people whom you are referring to. For a Christian, you seem to lack the things spoken of in Micah where God asks us to do justice, to love, to show kindness and to walk “humbly” with our God. I see no humility at all in your stance whatsoever. God has not forbidden what you seem to be so against.
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