Why do you think that divorce is the only way for a child to have a stepparent?
My cousin’s husband died of cancer. She had three daughters and one was only an infant when her daddy died. Fortunately, she met a lovely man that ended up adopting all three and since they were so small, they have few memories of their bio dad. I know of other good examples as well and I also know of situations where one of the bio parents was downright evil or completely lost to drugs/alcohol.
While I do not feel comfortable about commenting on you personally (I don’t know you), your comments are completely ignorant and show a serious lack of thought.
You are correct in admonishing me about saying divorce. I should have said widowed also.
I am not against the people involved in these situations. I am concerned that step parent situations are not good for children and the parents regardless of their subjective feelings.
Please note that I set forth what can happen when step parent is both more and less loving than the bio parent.
I can also say that adopted children tend to yearn for their bio parents no matter how good their adoptive parents are.
There is power in biology and we should not forget it.