I, too am a Christian and I hope that I understand God’s will for human beings. I do think, and you will most likely agree, that children deserve that intact, biological family that God ordained from the beginning. Original sin explains death of a parent and divorce. Christ overcame death and condemned divorce.
That said, I must disagree with you. I realize I am saying things way out of the current social norm, but that does not mean my position is wrong. I think it is God’s position. I remember a woman on the Tonight Show saying she never remarried after her husband died because no one was good enough to raise her husband’s children. Not because there were not good people out there, but because her husband was their father.
Further, the subjective feelings of children are NOT absolutely the most important thing of all. What is good for the children in God’s plan is the most important thing regardless of transient feelings.
By the way, I hear that Laura Schlessinger says about the same?
Well, we agree on the ideal. I have no quibble with you. However, the world is imperfect. Also, to tell a young mother who has lost her husband in Iraq or anywhere else that she should not marry for the reasons you state is, in my opinion, very harsh. I think you come from a position of someone who has been very fortunate in their life not to have been placed in a position such as this.
I am not so judgmental of others or so righteous about trying to tell others what to do. However, you are certainly allowed to hold your position - I think you are in the minority on this, particularly with regard to widows/widowers. Children need a mother AND a father. The REAL problem is that people often discard their child’s other parent too readily and jump into a new relationship without thought. I have a cousin who is about to embark on her 4th marriage - she has 3 daughters. Can you even imagine? The only good news in THIS story is that the daughters were born into the 2nd marriage so they were spared the emotional pain of Divorce #1. I think my cousin is selfish.
As for God’s plan and children’s feelings, you seem to know an awful lot about what God’s plan is for all of these people whom you are referring to. For a Christian, you seem to lack the things spoken of in Micah where God asks us to do justice, to love, to show kindness and to walk “humbly” with our God. I see no humility at all in your stance whatsoever. God has not forbidden what you seem to be so against.