Posted on 07/05/2003 6:09:10 PM PDT by carlo3b
The "Oh no, not me" Male Complex!By Chef Carlo3b
NOT MUCH SEX IN THE CITY, or anywhere else for that matter if you are a maturing male, and experiencing some pretty common problems. For some men, being over 50, even if you are in great physical and mental health, can pose some really serious problems, and you may require the male equivalent of the 50,000 mile check-up.
The Problem
The "Oh no, not me" complex comes to mind! Contrary to popular belief, Men do not always think about sex, especially if it questions his own performance. Most men are, by nature, forbidden from thinking about sexual difficulties, and NEVER, any suggestion of a diminished capacity.To face what is the 3rd rail of masculinity, is to confront nature's call... the dreaded " I " word. Speaking of I, as in me, I would rather wrestle an Rabid Alligator than think about Impotence, or any variation of the squishy references to problems in the bedroom... But that doesn't change the facts.. and, it may be time to play with fire..
The Awakening
Most middle-aged men have begun to experience something equivalent to erectile dysfunction (ED). It isn't so bad if you think about it as a wake-up call, rather than a the distant sound of the male death rattle. It is in the worse case scenario, the inability of a man to achieve or maintain an erection sufficient for his sexual needs or the needs of his partner.To suggest, or even worse, to discover, that you may not be, what you thought you were, (and probably never were to begin with.. DUH), is to admit you are reaching the end much quicker than you thought. Face it ..or deny it. Most men find it much safer to deny it.
Most guys start to experience this natural, evolutionary phenomenon, at some point in their lives, usually beginning around the age of 40. However, most men do not acknowledge it until it bites him on the ass. If you refuse to face it, the results are nearly always devastating, and the infamous slippery slope comes into play.. self doubt, lower expectations, refusal to engage in sex, and the true destruction of most relationships.. the total avoidance of intimacy for what is sadly, and subconsciously perceived as self preservation.
Have I got your attention yet...
Sounds pretty bad doesn't it? Avoiding the problem can be. Truth be known, it is not just bad, but this could be fatal. A life without sex or intimacy, is actually horrible for your health, physically, and mentally. Here is were it gets really interesting, This problem does not have to be end of the world, and this scenario, as serious as it is, can in most cases be easily averted.What in the heck is wrong with me...
Nothing is wrong with a man, or woman that have changes in their lives, on any or all levels. We have all been taught to recognized the ramifications of Female Menopause, but how often have we confronted with what is the equally as lifealtering as the Male equivalence of Menopause, clinically refereed to as Andropause. Androgen Deficiency, is the loss or decreasing levels of androgens, or testosterone.I do not intend to play Doctor here, (although I have played one on TV.. ha), however, a decrease in male hormones begins to create a physiological and chemical change in maturing males. This phenomenon, generally takes place between the ages of 40 and 55, although it can occur earlier or much later.
The most common symptoms of Androgen Deficiency, or, according to author Jed Diamond, in his book, "Male Menopause," he concluded, men experiencing this phase of life, "need longer to recover from injuries and illness, less endurance for physical activity, weight gain, thinning hair, sleep disturbances, irritability, and reduced interest in sex.."
Awareness, is the key to overcoming the natural injustices of life, and there are a milieu of other causes for many of the symptoms of sexual dysfunction, in the reverse order of causation;
TOP TEN REASONS
10) Fear of rejection
9) Physical limitations, stroke, handicap
8) Chronic tobacco use
7) Alcoholism, or frequent drinking habit
6) Prolonged drug addiction, cocaine, marijuana, hallucinogenics...
5) Illnesses requiring medication, i.e.: high blood pressure, prostate, heart conditions, diabetes.. etc
4) Stress
3) Depression
2) Physical condition, (weakness, lack of exercise, weight gain)And the #1 reason for hitting in a Sexual Slump... drum roll......
DIETYes, diet ranks at the top of the list of reasons most men can not achieve their sexual potential! In later chapters we will address how, and what you can eat, that can change your lives in the most dramatic fashions imaginable. Many of the most treatable conditions listed above can be altered by changing your eating habits. As and example, weight gain, which makes exercising so difficult. Atherosclerosis, the hardening of the arteries, caused by deposits of fatty substances, high cholesterol levels, platelets, cellular waste products, calcium and other substances build up in the inner lining of an artery inhibiting blood vessels and restricting blood flow..
Just avoiding cooking with animal fats, and switching to olive oil, can drastically raise your natural endorphins, which remove stress or pain, and change the condition of the blood flows to the extremities of your body, resulting in enhanced and prolonged erections... Ba da bing..
Did you know, that there are foods, such as natural aphrodisiacs, that stimulate the normal body functions, that have been used throughout history, to create high sexual interest in both women and men? Ba da boom
Any of this sound familiar?The Silver lining...
WHAT? Are you nuts? How can there be any SILVER LINING?
For most men, having discovered any of the symptoms as an early warning sign, can dissuade much of the long term destructive behaviors, and choices can be treated, corrected, and/or avoided, before they consume your relationships. Having been detected early, these common problems can be stopped in there tracts.Now what...
Having been made aware of the rules and red flags in the game, now is the time to take the ball and run with it. Lets get a handle on the problems and take the first step in solving them. Now with our help lets start to tackle, and remove the simplest roadblocks.Cooking now takes on a whole new world of fun, ...that is aside from holding your family and sex life together.. it tastes good too... blush.. smirk!
Copyright: Carlo3b, Morelli Publishing Inc.
Your feelings hit the bulls eye for a healthy, normal, human. Sex isn't what we really value in life, sex is a wonderful expression of our physical attraction to another individual.
I believe, what we really need as we grow more mature in our mental health, is the closeness, the warmth, and the need of an intimate friendship.. It's the primary act of touching that makes intimacy a natural part of love. There should be a warning label on our relationships... "Sex is not intended to be a substitute for intimacy"
YIKES... I'm Sterilized
Seems that Chocolate is the elixir of choice of women throughout the world... Hershey Pa. would be a start.. { :^P
Hope you had a good 4th!
IS OPENING AN OYSTER RELEASING A PRIMAL FORCE?.. ASK CASANOVA !!...Oysters are Mother Natures own low fat, high mineral, sensual health food. Phosphorus, iodine and zinc can do a lot of good, zinc alone, increases both sperm and testosterone production as well as the secretion of a vaginal lubricant. First hand chroniclers of the life and times of Casanova, the 18th century heartthrob, confirm that he was an avid believer in the potency of oysters. It is said that he ate 50 raw oysters every morning while bathing with the favored lady of the moment. Even Roman emperors bought oysters by their weight in gold. The Greek goddess of love Aphrodite, sprang forth from the sea on an oyster shell and promptly gave birth to Eros, and sealed the fate of the almighty oyster as the divine aphrodisiac of Love
The legions of believers line up even now at nightspots throughout the world drinking the newest pop cocktail containing oysters. These have a variety of concoctions and known by various names such as Oyster Shots, Love Shooters, and soon our own contribution..;
Slam Bam Thank ya Ma'am.
Place one oyster in a double shot glass, add a teaspoon of ketchup, a dab of fresh horseradish, a dash of Worcestershire, and fill with jalapeño vodka... Throw it back and hold on!!!. ...Laissez les jeux commencer....
We now have what some might call, "MIRACLE DRUGS" that work to increase the speed and volume of blood flow to the necessary sexual extremities! Viagra is one of the major impotence treatments today. It's about 90% effective in the treatment of ED, and a little better than that in the success rate of endurance satisfaction. Not a bad record for the solution of such a devastating disorder.
There are other drugs with similar phosphodiesterase inhibitors (PDE5) are in still in clinical trials and will likely be marketed in the future, finally giving some competition to Viagra, and perhaps dropping the price. A single tablet of this sexual lifesaver is about 12 bucks... However, as with anything else, there are those that will use this or any other drug for purposes that were not intended, that are dangerous.. My suggestion is to consult your doctor before using this powerful stimulant.
There are some drugs that are on the market that work on the mental or nerve-transmitting part of impotence, which helps the brain communicate to the penis. Plus there are other medications that are intended to the the exact opposite of what Viagra might do, that is to assist in calming some patients down, so they might better concentrate on the subject and not rush ejaculation.
All of these methods are helpful in assisting other natural solutions like diet and exercise... so before you waste any more time denying the problem, do something about it.. and live again.
Basil is so easy to grow, too. The smell of a fresh basil leaf rolled between your fingers is a gardening pleasure. 2 or 3 plants and you will have plenty to share.
A basil bump! Thanks Carlo.
Basil, huh ? And all this time, I thought it was
ancient Chinese secret ingredients in the food! :O)
I dunno, Bathing with Basil.Sounds pretty Bad to moi...
BATHS
One of the best ways to start a romantic encounter is by sharing an herbal bath. Place any combination of these herbs -- dried or fresh -- in a cheesecloth bag or tea infuser, letting the herbs soak in warm water along with you. Or try bath oils containing any of these herbs: aloe vera, basil, chamomile, cinnamon, comfrey, eucalyptus, hops, lavender, oats, parsley, and St. John's wort.
Thanks.My wife is mainland Chinese. Her sister lives with us and they always are cookin' up something really delicious, and ALWAYS healthy. The Chinese are very concerned with health in their diet, intake. I can tell it makes a difference too. I think the Chinese eat better (health-wise) than the average American does.
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