Posted on 07/13/2011 9:43:33 AM PDT by freespirited
If you've ever spent time telling a guy a story or asking him a question, only to get a blank stare in response, then you know that there's definitely truth to this claim that guys weren't designed to hear us speak. I had a similar experience at brunch this weekend when I was going on and on to a male friend about something I can't even remember anymore. When I got to the end of my rant and finally asked him if he agreed with me on the topic at hand, his answer was, "sorry, I really wasn't listening to a word you said."
Even though I was incredibly frustrated with him, he did bring up a good point, asking, "would you rather I lie and say I heard you?" This little exchange, as insignificant as it was, did make me wonder exactly what it is that makes it so easy for men to tune us out.
As it turns out, a study published in the journal NeuroImage sought to answer the very same question. Researchers found that there are major differences in the way male and female brains process voice sounds. Different brain regions are activated in men, depending on whether they're hearing a male or female voice.
Apparently, the vibration and number of sound waves in our voice makes it harder for men to decipher what we're saying. When it comes to processing a woman's voice, they use the more complex auditory part of the brain that processes music, not human voices. But the guys in the study could easily hear and understand other mens voices as speech because that uses a simpler brain mechanism at the back of the brain.
So, next time you want to get angry and yell at a guy for "not listening," cut him a little slack his brain just wasn't made to hear you. My suggestion would be to speak slowly and get to your point fast.
Fella, been there, done THAT! Ha ha....she gets really pissed when I tell her “you told me that yesterday - twice” or “you told me 45 minutes ago” or “you’re preaching to the choir, etc......”
One of our nieces tells this story about an interesting trip to treat an elder gentlemen who needed a ride to the hospital in the ambulance.
When they arrived at the home, the lady invited them in, then went over to her husband, leaned over and very loudly shouted "The paramedics are here to transport you to the hospital"
She then commented to the ambulance crew that her husband was very hard of hearing, and that they would need to raise their voices when speaking to him
When they got out to the ambulance, our niece started to bend over and holler out some information to the patient, but he quickly commented with a grin "Honey, I hear perfectly, but please just don't tell my wife!"
INDEED.
A pastor/MD and his wife mentioned that in a sermon once.
The wife casually wondered if a pool would fit in their narrow side yard on a hill in La Mesa overlooking San Diego.
He began to immediately calculate construction costs, insurance etc. etc.
She was merely in idle contemplation of the possibilities.
He experienced it as a stressful question.
I can handle either mode.
However, masses of words about not much of much importance have increasingly become an extremely low priority to an annoyance, the older I’ve gotten. LOL.
There are what I call dial tone women. They want to make sure the communication channel is open but they have no information to impart. Listening to them is like listening to a dial tone.
ABSOLUTELY INDEED.
And some women are insecure enough to have to check the dial tone about every 3rd minute! Sigh.
Thanks for your kind reply.
This is why G-d invented breasts.
so how will this play out in the upcoming elections? Michelle Bachman or Sarah Palin......they do have better voices than sHrillary.
And why man invented beer.
I don’t have TV.
Which one has the stronger, assertive, CAN-DO voice without sounding bitchy or overly aggressive?
“My suggestion would be to speak slowly and get to your point fast.”
Ladies, you don’t have to speak slowly... but if you don’t immediately get to the point and dither around, we guys ARE going to ignore you. We ignore other men that do the same thing. Deal with it.
I gotta go with the guys on this one.
Best answer yet!
What was the 'condition' the Adam was initially created???? Something was taken from him to make the woman.
I got a cartoon in my email not long ago and it was captioned:
God took a rib out of man and created a microphone.
She nailed it! By the second or third sentence I'm already thinking about something else...especially when it takes my wife five minutes to get to the point.
LOL! Nailed it!
(BTDT^3)
My father-in-law loves being deaf and drinking Scotch.
Says it was the best thing that ever happened to his marriage. He can just nod and sit there.
Yep the mouth the man refuses to hear because it is NOT in his own interest.... The majority of my life has been MALE preachers claiming that Adam (the first recorded liberal) blaming GOD and 'that' woman was the WORD... It was not until I read the words without the help of some male that I read them for what and who was doing the 'itching'.... I have taken to 'heart' that this man Adam set the stage for what would be to come. 'That woman', seemingly has served the man for eons.... but in that 'case' it was the itch that Adam did 'listen' to the woman, in spite of what he was told directly by the Heavenly Father.... Man has through the ages demonstrated he can be the smallest of minds literally and/or figuratively created.
It has been my own personal experience that a man can out gossip and itch and whine any female I have ever met.
While on deployment in 04-05, my unit had this very b—chy female XO who would rant about everything, even cups in the break tent not being in height order or too much trash in the c-wire. Well she started chewing myself and another officer out over some nonsense I cannot remember. This guy, who was an Marine FO in VIETNAM, and in 2004, a W4 and a real old-timer, looked at me after the XO was done and said, “What was she yelling about, I sort of tuned her out?”. I replied with, “I have no idea; I was tuning her out too. But I guess if it’s important, she’ll yell at us again.”
Does yours have the ‘sound of blackboards mating’ British chick voice?
That one just about caused hubby to drive the Yukon right into a bridge abutment, once.
She drove him literally crazy.
[and all I could do was laugh]
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