Posted on 11/08/2005 8:01:14 AM PST by TBP
Before the divorce rate began its inexorable rise in the late 1960s, the common wisdom had been that, where children are concerned, divorce itself is a problem. But as it became widespread -- peaking at almost one in two first marriages in the mid-1980s -- popular thinking morphed into a new, adult-friendly idea: It's not the act of divorcing that's the problem, but simply the way that parents handle it.
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:) Than you, that is what I meant...Just like my prior neighbors married 25 years going to church every sunday while the husband is trying to get me in the sack..Hmmm He is lucky I never told his wife, she thought the sun rose and sat on him and I surely did not want to burst her fantasy bubble...
Daughters need daddy's just as much if not more than son's. I cannot speak to the church's view on the topic.
I can say the bible is quite clear that if you see someone who commits sin, and you say nothing to them, their sin will be held against you. However if you inform the sinner of their sin, and they continue on the path anyway you are absolved of responsibility for their sins.
I believe that alcoholism, as with other addictions can lead to abuse and neglect, and that is definately where I draw the line. On the other hand, generations of folks grew up in homes with alcoholics and became fine upstanding citizens. My Grandfather's wife raised 5 kids with an alcoholic husband, and divorced him only after the last one was out of the house, and they are all great people.
If hubby's behavior is at a point where it could bring down the family, then something has to give. If it is not however, even though it is not obviously ideal to have an alcoholic parent... the statistics on children with no father in their day to day lives (living under the same roof) are astoundingly clear.
Me, too. I heard a relationship "expert" on the radio say: "The problem is not that there are too many divorces, the problem is that there are too many marriages."
You can also be prepared to inherit your spouse's debts anything they do not pay for, believe you me..YOU WILL...
I use to work in Human Resources and had to take out mandatory child support payment on women who had husbands that were in the rears for children from a husbands prior wife...
Well not exactly. Among the recently divorced men in my town, the first place to go to get some action is some mega churches singles night.
Bring back the dowry!
My father-in law was married until his wife left him for some other man he is now married to my husbands mother and he has to pay his ex a 1000.00 a month (Forever) from his military retirement and she plans never marrying again because if she did she would loose his money...This is fair?
What about adultery? In addition, there are some marriages that become so toxic emotionally that staying together is actually harmful for the children.
What we really need is more privately-sponsored and available pre-marital education -- from churches and synagogues especially. We need couples mentoring within congregations by older, successful married people to newlyweds and new parents. We need more research and development into compatibility screening methods. It's not enough to try to close the barn door. I am also in favor of parental licensing. Children would not be illegitimate, but their parents could be.
Ask Elizabeth Taylor. She was married 8 times before she gave up.
If mockery isn't pertinent it's inane.
Get ready for a big smackdown.
Your opinion...GOD does not like hypocrites....
I am a Christian I love GOD with all my heart, but I will be damned if I am going to be a Hypocrite Holier than Thou Christian which are in the THOUSANDS and be a Amy Mc Pherson type...
But then again I believe JESUS was for the sinner not the arrogant Holier than Thou types...
The mockery is occuring at the mega church among the "believers". Don't know what it is, but among those who have gone through divorce, mega church singles nite is like "Saints Gone Wild". The saved and recenlty single women are easier than going to a bar. Again, from what I've been told among both secular and saved men.
I know of one pastor at a mega church who discussed this with me and he was ashamed of what was going on, but he was down the pecking order on the from the top minister and he was told basically to be quiet or move on.
No it's not fair.
They're purely voluntary, so I really don't have any problems with them. I just don't think they really do much, as the people who are willing to enter into them are also probably the type of people who are less likely to divorce in the first place.
You show me one statistic, one study, that shows conclusively that children are better off from a broken home because the two parents could not be adult enough around their children to control their "emotional toxin"...
Folks who are like that, are so selfish they are not going to raise those children any better apart than they do together.
As to habitual adultery, while I wholey condemn it, does not make an argument that divorce is the better path when children are involved.
Again, selfishness is the heart of most divorce, on one or both sides. If you have no kids, do whatever you want... but once you bring a child into this world, that/those children are now the priority of your life. Other than REAL ABUSE or NEGLECT there is no justifiable reason to divorce until the children are out of the house.
Life isn't about getting what you want, sometimes you have to sacrifice for the betterment of those around you. I know such a concept is foreign to the selfish, instant gratification lifestyle that Madison Avenue sells hard.. but its the truth.
I agree..TOTALLY..
I remember watching th Brady Bunch, Father Knows Best Bewitched when I was a kid and thought Wow THE Perfect Family! then when I found out the Brady dad was GAY so was DARRIN, the Father in Father knows best was a DRUNK then I found out my best friends father who I also thought was PUURFECT was molesting all the little girls in the neighborhood REALITY STRUCK.
Then the counselor at the Catholic Church I attend told me that half the congregation is in therapy for Adultery or some kind of sexual immoral behaviour I realize marraige is for the tough at heart..
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