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You show me one statistic, one study, that shows conclusively that children are better off from a broken home because the two parents could not be adult enough around their children to control their "emotional toxin"...

Folks who are like that, are so selfish they are not going to raise those children any better apart than they do together.

As to habitual adultery, while I wholey condemn it, does not make an argument that divorce is the better path when children are involved.

Again, selfishness is the heart of most divorce, on one or both sides. If you have no kids, do whatever you want... but once you bring a child into this world, that/those children are now the priority of your life. Other than REAL ABUSE or NEGLECT there is no justifiable reason to divorce until the children are out of the house.

Life isn't about getting what you want, sometimes you have to sacrifice for the betterment of those around you. I know such a concept is foreign to the selfish, instant gratification lifestyle that Madison Avenue sells hard.. but its the truth.

"Folks who are like that, are so selfish they are not going to raise those children any better apart than they do together."

I don't disagree, but don't discount the mothers or fathers out there who do ALL the work themselves and are undermined by their spouses. Those kids fare heaps better when raised alone or in a new family.

If divorce is so selfish, why do so many people choose to go it alone at emotional, personal and physical sacrifice? They want a better life for their children and put their lives on the line for it.

My parents got divorced when I was a baby and based on their general conduct towards each other I do not believe forcing them to stay married would have made my childhood easier. My father remarried and has stayed married for over twenty years, and I have a half-sister, had my parents stayed married I would have been subjected to their daily bickering and screaming. It was bad enough to hear it when it was time for visitation.

Do I wish I grew up in an intact family? Yes. But I was born of two people who should not have ever gotten married in the first place, so what are you going to do?

As to habitual adultery, while I wholey condemn it, does not make an argument that divorce is the better path when children are involved.

Do you think children benefit from seeing their parent flaunt their affairs around them? Or in a situation where one child is clearly not the biological child of the father, but the product of an affair?

Under your scenario, a wife could have a child, have an affair, have a child by another man, and you would expect the husband to suck it up, ignore the affair and raise a child not his own, then once the children are grown get divorced and be subject to alimony (18 years= long term marriage)? He likely would not be able to use the adultery as a fault ground since he stayed in the marriage for all those years. I don't think that is reasonable, and that's why even in the old days adultery was a ground for divorce.