I agree..TOTALLY..
I remember watching th Brady Bunch, Father Knows Best Bewitched when I was a kid and thought Wow THE Perfect Family! then when I found out the Brady dad was GAY so was DARRIN, the Father in Father knows best was a DRUNK then I found out my best friends father who I also thought was PUURFECT was molesting all the little girls in the neighborhood REALITY STRUCK.
Then the counselor at the Catholic Church I attend told me that half the congregation is in therapy for Adultery or some kind of sexual immoral behaviour I realize marraige is for the tough at heart..
This makes me sad. There is no doubt that there is an ugly side to human nature. But there are many, many good an decent people, and may I say MEN, in this world. It sounds as if you have been deeply hurt and had many disappointments in your life.
I know of many, many good marriages. Not perfect mind you, but good and fulfilling. They are not widely discussed, or universally applauded. They are just two people who do the right thing because that is who they are.
I guess all I can say is this: If it bleeds, it leads. That is true even when it comes to gossip. There are just as many couples with good marriages, but you never hear about them because it really isn't that interesting to talk about.
TV is a place where people make a living pretending to be something they are not. The difference between TV then, and TV now is that at least they paid lip service to respecting the family. Now it is nothing other than a joke.
I will leave you with this: In this world, we find what we are looking for. If you are looking for good examples of bad marriages, you will find many. But if you have an ideal that you work towards, you look for good examples of good marriages, you will find many and learn from them. Then, with God's help you will model behavior that will not necessarily make your life easier, but will contribute to a better society after you are gone. What we behold, we become. Or to use current cw: If you are not part of the solution, there is good money to be made prolonging the problem.
Hey, I've got to get off of here and get some work done. I hope you have a terrific day!
We are all failed and flawed creatures.... faith does not change that.
However, it helps to keep a simple fact in mind....
"Before they were Great Saints, many were Greater Sinners"
Marriage is a joining of two flawed creatures, to expect perfection from it is to be naive and unrealistic. Which is sadly the expectations many have going in, and why many wind out going out.