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Gender Blender: Adolescent Girls and 'Heteroflexibility'
BreakPoint ^
| Feb. 9, 2004
| Charles Colson
Posted on 02/09/2004 12:27:36 PM PST by DemWatch
Back rubs, slumber parties, holding hands, and playing with each others hair: This is all typical teenage girl behavior. While boys tend to rough-house, girls tend to be more affectionate. Its always been innocent.
Until now, that is, writes Washington Post writer Laura Sessions Stepp. Nowadays, sexual preference is a shifting concept among adolescent girls, and in our sex-charged culture affectionate behavior between girls has gone well beyond childs play.
Its hard to tell whether these girls are acting on attraction or are simply vying for attention. For example, in one Washington, D.C., private school, a group of girls charged boys $10 to watch girls make out. In the protean world of young female sexuality, where all forms of expression are modeled, Stepp writes, nothing is certain. As one Brown University female said, I like women only right now, but who knows where Ill be in 25 years?
Researchers say this malleability of female sexuality is to be expected. Lisa Diamond of the University of Utah conducted a longitudinal study of women ages 16 to 23 who were attracted to other women and found that over eight years, two-thirds of them changed labels from unlabeled to bisexual, lesbian to bisexual. One professor concluded, there are multiple pathways to homosexuality.
On one level, this phenomenon among young women is about the growing acceptance of homosexuality and how that affects them. When the Edmund Burke School in Washington, D.C., held a diversity day, students gathered in a circle and were asked to step into the middle if they described themselves as homosexual. No students stepped forward. Then they were asked to step forward if they thought of themselves as bisexual, and of the sixty students present, fifteen stepped forward, including eleven girls.
In the world of adolescence, young people are pursuing acceptance. Whoever likes me, I like them, said one high-school girl. Most of these girls arent gay, said another. Theyre just doing it because their friends are doing it.
These girls say they dont know what they are and dont need to know, writes Stepp. Adolescence and young adulthood is a time for exploration . . . That statement gets closer to the heart of the matter: They dont know, and in schools and in popular cultureBritney Spears kissing Madonnatheyre encouraged to try it all.
Todays sexually charged culture treats the options of gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgendered as all equal, all accepted choices. So when a girl hugs another girl, she may wonder if shes lesbian or shy away from once-innocent behavior for fear of being thought lesbian. Add to that the possibility that girls may be reacting to bad experiences with boys, and we have complete confusion.
Adolescents are being bombarded by messages from media, peers, and schools. The most detrimental message is anything goeseverythings legitimate. We need to encourage kids like never before that God designed them in His image, and He has a specific design for our relationships. They dont have to try out everything, only to be left in the end with nothing.
TOPICS: Culture/Society
KEYWORDS: achoicenotgenetic; adolescent; charlescolson; culturewar; declineandfalliv; gays; gender; girls; hedonists; homosexual; homosexualagenda; homosexualchoice; indoctrination; lesbian; libertines; mtv; permissivesociety; prisoners; promiscuity; sexualdeviants; sexualizingchildren; teensex
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To: mikegi
Back in my day even the sluts would have kicked your a$$ 6 ways to Sunday if you ever even entertained the idea of making it with another girl.
I just don't get the attraction guys have for girl-on-girl stuff. Trust me, women do NOT have the similar fantasies about guys.
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posted on
02/09/2004 4:06:00 PM PST
by
gracie1
(Where are we going and why are we in this handbasket?)
To: fr_freak
The promotion of sex as simply a recreational act damages the importance of its role in marriage and family. This includes irresponsible heterosexual behavior as well. Sexual intimacy is a large part of the bond between a husband and wife, and is greatly diminished if each has become accustomed to sex as a casual activity. Homosexuality goes even farther in that it destroys the very foundation of marriage - that it is a union of a man and a woman. Bump for the truth.
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posted on
02/09/2004 4:11:31 PM PST
by
Campion
To: gracie1
I just don't get the attraction guys have for girl-on-girl stuff. Trust me, women do NOT have the similar fantasies about guys.I'm not quite sure of the reason for the attraction either even though I suffer from it to some degree. Of course, I'm not talking about combat boot wearing, crewcut dykes. They would turn my stomach as much as two guys would.
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posted on
02/09/2004 4:27:05 PM PST
by
mikegi
To: DemWatch
What's the old expression for Vassar girls? "Lesbian Until Graduation." And for Bryn Mawr: "Lesbian For Life."
This is a juvenile experiment most girls will live to be embarrassed about. But a handful will not have the good sense to be ashamed.
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posted on
02/09/2004 4:30:23 PM PST
by
IronJack
To: EdReform; Clemenza; Paleo Conservative
The New York city PRIVATE schools are going to hell.
I went to three of them. I spent 3 years in Ramaz, a Modern-Orthodox Jewish school No problem their, although many students are less than Orthodox during their free time in high school. (Pot... what's pot?! I thought these were roll-it yourself menthols. Alcohol? We are praciticing the use of ceremonial wine with been and liquor!)
I then went to Buckley, an all boys school which goes k-9th. As far as I know, there was never anything going on, although I do remember two gay teachers. (1 art, 1 Latin)
For high school, I went to Collegiate. At my time no one came out the closet until May of their senior year. They didn't dare to do so earlier. The closest thing to a shared sexual experience was trading pornmagazines and putting up SI Calendars in the student center. However, thngs have gone downhill in the last 8 years. There is a new "socially liberal" (check this guys hard drive for kiddie porn!) heandmaster. There is now a special advisor for homosexual students. So falleth the oldest school in America.
The sister schools were always far more liberal. Brearly girls were always thought of as lesbian. (And I don't mean lipstick lezzies either, in some cases!)
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posted on
02/09/2004 4:31:34 PM PST
by
rmlew
(Peaceniks and isolationists are objectively pro-Terrorist)
To: IronJack
The boys at Vassar are more likely to be gay than the girls (Same is true for Sarah Lawrence.)
According to friends who went their, 1/2 of the guys and 1/3 of the girls were homosexual. Considering a 2 to 1 ration, this left 2.5 straight women per straight man.
If you can't get laid with those odds...
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posted on
02/09/2004 4:37:37 PM PST
by
rmlew
(Peaceniks and isolationists are objectively pro-Terrorist)
To: gracie1
I just don't get the attraction guys have for girl-on-girl stuff.Yeah, I can see how women could find this confusing. Most guys can't explain it -- it's just there. In our defense, I'm not sure women are very good about articulating why certain things can get them "worked up" either. It's not the sort of topic that lends itself to words I guess.
To: gracie1
I just don't get the attraction guys have for girl-on-girl stuff. Trust me, women do NOT have the similar fantasies about guys. It's not to tuff to figure. Young men want to see nudity. They don't care what they're doing.
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posted on
02/09/2004 4:42:44 PM PST
by
fritzz
(Idiot of Idiots, to trust what is written - Plautus - Romans must have had their own NY Times)
To: Hodar
Name the #1 male fantasy.Just because something attracts us that does not mean it is moral or should be celebrated. Remember that every female is a daughter, sister, or future wife. Then maybe you can stop with those evil thoughts. What if it was your daughter, sister, mother, or wife that was being degraded by a "fantasy"?
To: EdReform; *Homosexual Agenda
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posted on
02/09/2004 4:56:50 PM PST
by
MeekOneGOP
(Check out this HILARIOUS story !! haha!: http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/1060580/posts)
To: DemWatch
As one Brown University female said, I like women only right now, but who knows where Ill be in 25 years? Childless, alone, and wondering how on earth she missed her chance at landing a nice guy...
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posted on
02/09/2004 5:12:55 PM PST
by
Rytwyng
To: Unam Sanctam
The courts have agreed that students can not grade one another's papers because of privacy issues. Sexuality, however, can be exposed in an open assembly.
OK...I think I understand.
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posted on
02/09/2004 5:13:17 PM PST
by
sharktrager
(The last rebel without a cause in a world full of causes without a rebel.)
To: nevergiveup
As one Brown University female said, I like women only right now, but who knows where Ill be in 25 years? Iowa?
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posted on
02/09/2004 5:14:32 PM PST
by
sharktrager
(The last rebel without a cause in a world full of causes without a rebel.)
To: rmlew
I went to a Carmelite High School in Florida (thanks for uprooting me to Flori-duh dad!), where you could get any drug you wanted and the boys and girls had there way with eachother, though at least off school grounds.
Nevertheless, the contrast between my high school, where most were focused on learning and my sisters public high school, where you needed to get into honors classes otherwise you would be screwed educationally (and sharing the classroom with the South Florida chapter of the Bloods & Crips). This BTW, was in Boca Raton, aka Scarsdale South, one of the wealthiest towns in the state.
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posted on
02/09/2004 6:48:29 PM PST
by
Clemenza
(East side, West side, all around the town. Tripping the light fantastic on the sidewalks of New York)
To: fr_freak; little jeremiah; scripter; ArGee; lentulusgracchus; Bryan; GrandMoM; Brad's Gramma; ...
Bumping an excellent reply
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posted on
02/09/2004 7:07:31 PM PST
by
EdReform
(Free Republic - Now more than ever! Thank you for your support!)
To: little jeremiah
BTTT
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posted on
02/09/2004 7:33:16 PM PST
by
EdReform
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To: *Homosexual Agenda; EdReform; scripter; GrandMoM; backhoe; Yehuda; Clint N. Suhks; saradippity; ...
Homosexual Agenda Ping. There are some great comments, check out #38.
Let me know if anyone wants to be added to or subtracted from this ping list. Warning: very busy lately.
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posted on
02/09/2004 7:38:46 PM PST
by
little jeremiah
(everyone is entitled to their opinion, but everyone isn't entitled to be right.)
To: valkyrieanne
Gay men and women are different.Yes, their behavior is different. And yes, their backgrounds are often different - broken homes, poor bonding or relationships with one or both parents. And yes, more often molested or seduced as children or adolescents.
IMO, homosexuality in men is largely genetic (made worse by social factors like poor upbringing.)
Your opinion is not backed up by science or research. Even pro-homosexual researchers have admitted they haven't found a "gay" gene or any evidence that such exists.
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posted on
02/09/2004 7:48:45 PM PST
by
little jeremiah
(everyone is entitled to their opinion, but everyone isn't entitled to be right.)
To: 68skylark
. Gay men often argue that their homosexuality is genetic (am I basically believe them). You may believe them, and they may believe it, but homosexual researchers have been unable to find any evidence that homosexual attraction is genetic or inborn. The fact that there are thousands who are ex-gay is further evidence that same sex attraction is a disorder, with various causes including poor relationships with one or bother parents (or absent parent), and molestation or seduction when young.
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posted on
02/09/2004 7:53:18 PM PST
by
little jeremiah
(everyone is entitled to their opinion, but everyone isn't entitled to be right.)
To: rmlew
I remember the days when "the boys at Vassar" were all women. And no man with an ounce of testosterone in his body would do more than visit Sarah Lawrence.
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posted on
02/09/2004 8:16:48 PM PST
by
IronJack
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