Have to skip to the end to get past the selfish excuses people make for not javing kids. Given that, I’m not sure they will do well as parents.
Is love so out of the equation for young people today?
KWED — kids with enormous debt
Not everyone has kids and for different reasons.
Some are sad reasons that have to do with physical and/or psychological health.
But if it makes some feel better to take slings and arrows towrads then, so be it.
“my husband told me he’d be happy with or without them, as long as we stayed happily married. At the risk of sounding flaky, I don’t have a good explanation for why I changed my mind about children.”
You probably wisely realized that one day, that husband would knock up that hot new young girl at Starbucks when you hit your control freak stage. The instinct to breed doesn’t vanish for most sane people.
Perhaps one of the main reasons people choose to not have children is because they fear of having to grow up. If you’re a normal human being with a sense of responsibility, having children forces you to have to behave like a mature adult and not like a carefree college student.
They have three children at present.
The wife gave up a full scholarship as a pianist in preference of being a full time wife and mother.
Wonderful family. I try to spend a few days with them each year.
DORK => Dual Offspring, Redundant Kids.
A “fur baby” mom derided our family of five children for many years. Until she had a baby and the baby girl got old enough to throw her arms around mommies neck and say “I love you mommy”. The woman hunted me up and apologized for her remarks so long ago and told me that there was a huge difference between the “fur babies” and the real one.
Silly comment by the author, given the magnitude of the slaughters in the 20th Century.
Which is a testimony to the decline in American character, having entered into an era of an unprecedented high standard of living, in which pleasure without consequences is demanded, and unselfish sacrifice is rare, aside from a remnant of Christian devout, and those who are indoctrinated and baptized into the ethos and pathos of Climategeddon doctrine. Which, along with most of the rest, tend to avoid having children, or more than one or two, which are spoiled, thus fostering the decline of a nation.
‘okay, let’s try and see if it’s meant to be’ stance a/k/a “the good part.”
Does not matter if you give birth, adopt or find yourself responsible for them in some other way your life shifts from us and now to a whole future spread out generation upon generation. World without end, Amen.
There are some people that are so badly damaged from their parents they deliberately refrain from having children. They actually want and delight in children but fear keeps them from taking the risk.
There are others who's lives are full for other reasons, perhaps they are caring for someone else who is not their child but they have no idea how they would find time to care for a baby as well.
But most people if they are hopeful and optimistic want children even if they never have them.
I was very afraid I’d be a lousy parent and regret it. But what I did not know before having children was how great it is to fall head over heels in love with that child. And you can do that several times a day. In between fatigue and messes and doubt, the little miracle smiles at you and you turn a new page. Life can be hard no matter what you choose. But if you choose to be a parent you never doubt that your faithfulness and effort has meaning. And there is always the possibility of being simply delighted one more time. My husband and I would definitely wish this for any couple.
My daughter is ten now and I would give THE WORLD to sit at in my rocking chair at 2am with her.
Kids do not have any “pain in the ass” stage. Crying, unreasonable or what not.
They’ll miss that.
Wife and I married late - 28 n 30yo. Neither of us was playing the field, we just hadn’t found the right person.
My parentage ‘moment’ came when our son went to school bec that is when & where parents lose their identity.
You are now Little Jimmy’s mon and dad. NOTE: the lower case mon and dad. I’m was no longer Steve - I’ve been transformed into Jim’s dad.
We had no problem with that - it was just a moment of parental clarity
Glad to see someone honest enough to admit her reasons for not having a child were totally narcissistic and selfish.
Her writing style is a continuous stream of me, myself, and I. Her baby is a souless object to her, without any humaness worth mentioning. She is a narcisstic mother. There is no cure. If her husband can get 100% custody, he is better off divorcing her now. He can hire good help, and even use AI as a force multiplier, to raise a healthy loving child.
She wrote that pregnancy was body horror. That is the BS morons are spreading now? My pregnancies were so easy. The stretch marks, not so much.
Why is anyone surprised these generations don’t want to reproduce? They grew up in daycare, and have no sense of family.