Posted on 06/29/2021 5:15:45 PM PDT by CharlesOConnell
Kind of a strange story to me. What young couple today in their early 20s - actually planning to live together - doesn’t know about and practice birth control?
Story would have been more realistic if the daughter wasn’t ‘sheepish’, but said, with the typical confidence of youth, that she had ‘taken care of that’.
(Well, within one percent or so...)
Preparation for marriage. They’d have to detail how that works. First place the statistics on marriage lasting for previous cohabitators is seriously compromised
But...girls- tell us exactly how it works. Really.
Prep for marriage includes knowing I’d the guy dotes on his Controlling mother to a sick extent. Can you count on him in a pinch. Get off birth control pills and see how you like him. Pregnant women and women on the pill (hormonally the same) look for different qualities in a man than a celibate woman who is seeking a mate and vice versa. Does he open the door without a fuss, without looking for accolades and adoration, but to consider himself a gentleman (no gentleman has sex outside of marriage, BTW) ditto remove his hat indoors and please in church. Does he go to church? On his own?
Who are his friends
Gynosociety has removed every single benefit from marriage for men.
There is no benenfit anymore, just risk and financial hardship. And on top of it, no one cares about risks for men,,or their financial hardships.
If women got the same deal men get in marriage and divorce, no woman in their right kind would agree to get married.
And they know this.
And married guys also know his,,especially those who have been through the grinder.
Yet they don’t tell young men the truth. They all want them to get screwed over just like they were, because society wants them to and many dumbass guys think, well no one warned me, why should I warn them?
Prepping for marriage involves a whole lot of things starting with acknowledging Yeshua as being the head of the family. You like someone to begin with and you develop your love for each other over time.
Sorry that this poor guy failed at parenting.
By the time they realized their mistake, it was too late. Many apparently completely tune out to their kids until the kids are in their teens and starting to “act out”. But it’s already too late by then. I am sorry to say.
What you do when they are very young pays dividends when they are teens. There is no playing catchup later.
We can always count on you, SAM.
It must have been one horrible divorce...
“As she and her 24-year-old boyfriend marched out the door, I was heartbroken. It was one of the great sorrows of my life. “
The big question is: Did she ever come back?
Oh, and they were most likely already having sex.
I suspect the only thing dad accomplished was an expression of his beliefs and the animus of his daughter.
I tried telling my son not toarry tye woman he was living with. And not because of the living together part. His reponse. “ Im not about to take marriage advise from a guy whos been divorced twice”. nice comback son.. . I told him next time his car needs to be fixed,to be sure the guy working on it has never worked on a car before. .
“What young couple today in their early 20s - actually planning to live together - doesn’t know about and practice birth control?”
We ran a charity giving baby showers to moms who didn’t abort. We found that many lower class women won’t use birth control because they want children. This was after Clinton got rid of welfare. There are strong biological urges that people have, they’ve been artificially taken out of a stable society that will straighten them out. It’s not very simple.
Like my grandmother used to say, “Why buy a cow when you can get milk for free?”
As opposed to one of those good divorces?
Traci Lords in the bedroom, Julia Child in the kitchen. Still a fantasy.
“Yet they don’t tell young men the truth.”
I tell every young man, which by happenstance the discussion comes up, to take their future into their own hands, put on a condom and never marry.
And there ought to be a mandatory course in high school and boot camp: The unwritten, binding clauses of the marriage contract.
That contract is with all levels of US government and most other nations. Not with the girl that wants you to sign it.
It doesn’t sound as if we’re talking about a ‘lower class’ woman in your original post.
Studies from 1985 and 1994 probably don’t mean much these days.
Your post illustrates yet again, you have no idea what you’re talking about.
Go ahead, convince me how great a deal marriage is for a man in America, today.
Why buy a cow, when you get the milk for free. (from the Mary Tyler Moore show)
Excellent post!
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