Kind of a strange story to me. What young couple today in their early 20s - actually planning to live together - doesn’t know about and practice birth control?
Story would have been more realistic if the daughter wasn’t ‘sheepish’, but said, with the typical confidence of youth, that she had ‘taken care of that’.
(Well, within one percent or so...)
Preparation for marriage. They’d have to detail how that works. First place the statistics on marriage lasting for previous cohabitators is seriously compromised
But...girls- tell us exactly how it works. Really.
Prep for marriage includes knowing I’d the guy dotes on his Controlling mother to a sick extent. Can you count on him in a pinch. Get off birth control pills and see how you like him. Pregnant women and women on the pill (hormonally the same) look for different qualities in a man than a celibate woman who is seeking a mate and vice versa. Does he open the door without a fuss, without looking for accolades and adoration, but to consider himself a gentleman (no gentleman has sex outside of marriage, BTW) ditto remove his hat indoors and please in church. Does he go to church? On his own?
Who are his friends
Gynosociety has removed every single benefit from marriage for men.
There is no benenfit anymore, just risk and financial hardship. And on top of it, no one cares about risks for men,,or their financial hardships.
If women got the same deal men get in marriage and divorce, no woman in their right kind would agree to get married.
And they know this.
And married guys also know his,,especially those who have been through the grinder.
Yet they don’t tell young men the truth. They all want them to get screwed over just like they were, because society wants them to and many dumbass guys think, well no one warned me, why should I warn them?
Prepping for marriage involves a whole lot of things starting with acknowledging Yeshua as being the head of the family. You like someone to begin with and you develop your love for each other over time.
Sorry that this poor guy failed at parenting.
By the time they realized their mistake, it was too late. Many apparently completely tune out to their kids until the kids are in their teens and starting to “act out”. But it’s already too late by then. I am sorry to say.
What you do when they are very young pays dividends when they are teens. There is no playing catchup later.
“As she and her 24-year-old boyfriend marched out the door, I was heartbroken. It was one of the great sorrows of my life. “
The big question is: Did she ever come back?
Oh, and they were most likely already having sex.
I suspect the only thing dad accomplished was an expression of his beliefs and the animus of his daughter.
Like my grandmother used to say, “Why buy a cow when you can get milk for free?”
Traci Lords in the bedroom, Julia Child in the kitchen. Still a fantasy.
Studies from 1985 and 1994 probably don’t mean much these days.
Why buy a cow, when you get the milk for free. (from the Mary Tyler Moore show)
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That 23 y/o daughter is an adult, albeit a young one.
Her remarks sound rude and unnecessarily disrespectful.
“Well, I don’t care what you and Dad think. You’ll just have to accept it!”
Me talking to my parents like that even at age 23, would have earned me a good hard slap in the chops.
However, I know each family is different on what manner of communication is allowed. Even back then (60’s 70’s) some kids were known to talk smack to their parents, treat them as classmates vs parents.
My thinking is when you live together, you are more willing to compromise since it is short term. When you then get married it is then, “I’m not willing to do that the rest of my life”. The other party then feels cheated.
My Dad, God rest his soul, put it far more simply when I came of age back in the 1970s.
Why buy a cow when you get milk free? And would any woman that stupid be worth keeping?
No, I guess not, I told him . . . and I kept my snake in the cage until I found one worth keeping about my 28th birthday. It wasn't easy, but it was worth it.
So men shouldn’t marry.
Married 32 years here. I have found one secret to a long and happy marital life: communication!
Whenever my dear wife and I have a difference of opinion as to a course of action, we take time to carefully enunciate our respective positions and the merits of our viewpoints. Then - and ONLY then - we conclude by doing what she wants.
A woman who lives with a man without marrying him will come to realize she has a huge problem. She one day realizes he broke the rules by sleeping with her immorally and from then on believes he will break the rules again with another woman. That trust can never be regained.