My God...support your daughter and do everything you can to help her.
I will pray for restoration. Part of it will be that bitterness not take root as it will spread like wildfire, making one bitter about everything.
Praying
I'm praying that you haven't inadvertently created an unintended situation for everyone involved, including yourself.
Prayers
No matter what she is doing what she thinks is right for her. Do you know if he could get violent? Why risk it? And you should be prepared to have an angry husband land on your door demanding to know where she is. Not saying that is what will happen but you should be ready for it.
Everyone has three personas. Public, private and what goes on in their head.
I strongly suggest that you support your daughter and her decisions. If something bad happens will you ever forgive yourself if you talk her out of the plan she has laid out.
Have you considered going to the home, maybe even ‘accidentally’, to be there when your son-in-law comes home or sometime after he comes home calling him? Or telling someone close to him so they can be there somehow for support? I'd guess you have but have you even begged your daughter to try counseling and pleading with her that this isn't the way to go?
In any case, Your son in law and the whole situation will have my prayers.
I’ll be praying for your family.
Hmmm, I’m guessing your daughter already has another guy lined up. Most women don’t end a relationship until they have another guy ready to go. Sorry to be cold, but I’ll wager she’s been cheating on him for a while.
There is a reason that she is leaving while he is gone. It could ne the difference between her living and dying. I would trust and support my daughter. You do as you please. How do you know for a fact that he is not of the “If I can’t have her no one else will either”?
Your daughter is choosing one of the safest way to leave.
I will pray that all of you are safe. Prayers up.
Prayers up for Adam and for you and your daughter.
My advice is to keep your meddling nose out of their business.
I believe her fears are that the Son-in-law will kill himself. That he’d do it out of shock and despair.
I think prayers to avoid that are pretty appropriate.
Prayers for everyone involved.
Praying for all involved. Ignore the negative responses on here. Unless someone has been involved in a situation like this they have no concept of still loving and caring about the soon to be ex-spouse of a child. My son was at fault in his divorce and I’m still friends with his ex-wife. I simply told him that “he divorced her, I didn’t”. And yes, I love my son unconditionally too and he understood and is fine with it now.
Your son-in-law has my prayers. Our youngest daughter is a few years older than yours. I understand exactly how you feel. Fortunately, after 3 failed long term relationships, 2 failed marriages and 3 grandchildren all from different fathers, she finally married a man who is a conservative and considerably older than her. Somehow she has now been on the straight and narrow for several years now.
The knee jerk reactions by some of those here who here who have never been through something similar to what you are going through. I felt incredibly sorry for some of the guys our youngest daughter got involved with. We love our daughter but she was very bad news for young men.
Sometimes I really wanted to warn them ahead of time.