[bramps]

I'd ignore the first reply as I'm guessing you actually do know the whole situation pretty well. If your daughter told you her plan then I'd guess she tells you most things.

Have you considered going to the home, maybe even ‘accidentally’, to be there when your son-in-law comes home or sometime after he comes home calling him? Or telling someone close to him so they can be there somehow for support? I'd guess you have but have you even begged your daughter to try counseling and pleading with her that this isn't the way to go?

In any case, Your son in law and the whole situation will have my prayers.

[Prince of Space]

Yes we’ve discussed the possibility of marriage counseling but he doesn’t “believe in it” and won’t go. I understand her reasons for leaving him — he’s a lot of work emotionally — but he has a good heart and I just want him to not go down that dark road.

She’s in a good place — staying either with us or her brother — and she’s also emotionally devastated so of course I feel for her. My issue is that he’ll be alone when he reads her note and realizes his life has changed while she’s surrounded by her loving family. I’m trying to stay out of it as much as I can, but that doesn’t mean I’m not supposed to care about BOTH of them.

[Prince of Space]

Thank you, bramps.