Posted on 08/18/2020 1:48:52 PM PDT by CondoleezzaProtege
"The greatest and most challenging test for any man is to romance and pursue the same woman for a lifetime."
In my opinion, the best movie about Vietnam is We Were Soldiers starring Mel Gibson. He plays lieutenant colonel Hal Moore who commanded the first major battle of that war known as the Battle of Ia Drang. Surrounded and facing overwhelming odds, Moore and his soldiers withstood the onslaught for a week. One of the things Moore credits as a reason for the success was the love and devotion the soldiers had for one another. However, equally as important, was Moore’s consistent studying of the battlefield and knowledge of his enemy. He knew their strategies and the angles they would take to attack. This enabled him to position his forces in places that gave the greatest chance of victory.
In marriage, it is important to have love and devotion to one another. However, it is also equally important to know the temptations and pitfalls that attack marriage. One of the biggest enemies of marriage is infidelity. Knowing this enemy inside and out will help us remain faithful. Last week, we discussed why women cheat. Today we answer why men cheat.
Note: These are reasons, not justifications. Cheating is never justifiable under any circumstances.
Unfulfilled Emotional Needs
This seems to be the top reason. Most men who cheat consistently have expressed feeling disconnected from their wives. Men and women were both created for relationships. The need for emotional connection is innate in all of us, man or woman. However, physical affection and sex is an important way for men to feel emotionally connected with their wives. When that isn’t happening, it is easy for men to become withdrawn. When husbands emotionally drift from their wives, other connections will act like gravity.
Win Early: Work tirelessly to connect with your wife. When you feel yourself drifting, do whatever it takes to keep your feet secured in your marriage. Go out on dates, talk, find something new to experience together. Never stop, ever.
The Thrill, Insecurity, and Ego
”There are many men that simply love the excitement of the chase. The feeling of meeting a challenge and winning her over. It makes them feel powerful and attractive. This feeling is particularly enticing when a man feels neglected by his wife. A neglected man will feel rejected and insecure with a bruised ego. As a result, they go hunting to regain the sense of power and self-confidence they have lost.
Win Early: True power cannot be attained by the affirmation of others. The greatest and most challenging test for any man is to romance and pursue the same woman for a lifetime. Wake up every day and ask the question, “How can I win my wife today?”
Distraction
Being a husband and father is stressful. A man may love his wife, but there are now obligations to fulfill. The single life was carefree, but also lonely. They would rather not lose their wife but want a distraction from the pressure that comes with responsibility. They are looking for a quick return to the carefree days with the security of a spouse intact.
Win Early: Stay in the game. Stop the temptation the moment the thought enters your mind, rather than cradling it. When you find yourself looking for distractions, do the opposite. Embrace your responsibilities or you may lose them.
Sexual Addiction
There are women that have this problem, but mainly men. The exact cause is unknown but can involve both a chemical and/or psychological reason. These men consistently engage in sexual behavior (including viewing porn or participating in chat rooms) that brings negative outcomes. Despite the negative effects in their lives, they do not stop.
Win Early: Get treatment immediately. This can be overcome with medical treatment, psychological therapy, or support groups — perhaps all three.
Really now? And why in the world should a man have to "pursue" a woman he is married to? Romance is another thing, but the pursuit comment is absolutely nonsensical. I am not sure its realistic to expect romance to last forever -- or at least not at the same level as when your were courting. Ultimately, compatibility is more important than romance.
They believe that with the wedding ring comes her responsibility to put out on demand so he can get back to the game.
Women should never underestimate the importance of "putting out". It does not have to be "on demand", but it should be periodic. Once a week seems to work for most couples (after the first 2-3 years). Sex is a big factor in a marriage. Some women talk themselves into thinking it isn't, but they often find out the hard way they are mistaken.
I did some work for a friend that was a private investigator. He didn’t like doing the domestic stuff so I did it.
I NEVER had to follow the husband to see where he was doing his dirt.
It was always the wife.
I would have thought you posted Helen Thomas...
My son’s boss was just blindsided by his wife. She told him she didn’t feel like cooking so he went to pick up dinner and when he returned she was gone w/the kids leaving a note about divorce.
She wants his money and he has a lot of it. I just hope he gets, at least 50% custody of the kids.
More often than Birthday or Christmas would be nice.
Any responsibility for the woman? NOOOOOPE!
It needs to be said.
Between the bi-polar diagnosis that goes untreated, manic depression, social media obsessions, addiction to materialism & “stuff”, and downright laziness - I’d say I’d have to fully agree with you.
Because men are so sexy.....
Just kidding. I can’t figure out why women do anything.
Interesting theory!
“Why do women cheat?”
Every cheater has to have a cheaterette?
The other day I watched a movie called “A Woman Scorned,” about a woman named Betty Broderick. Apparently a true story.
Scary stuff. Cheaters beware! It may be a capital offense.
I heard a similar phrase; Never let your man leave the house horny or hungry, cause there is always some slut out there with a sandwich. Told my wife that one before we got married, she seems to have taken it to heart.
More common than anybody realizes or acknowledges now among college age women.
Some women go to the gym when they are neglected, get into great shape and go elsewhere for fun. I could give you a dozen examples among acquaintances.
Bravo! Bravissimo!
My reaction to the headline was: “Why do women cheat at least as much as men?”
Why do men cheat?
It’s simple - God made us that way.
The whole “Go forth and multiply” responsibility was put on men, not women.
God always wants more babies so his creation never dies out. He put the onus of this charge on men by making them sexually ready merely by seeing nice young breasts, butts, or flat tummies. Because of course, it is the young women who are most likely to successfully bear a child.
In other animals, God used the sense of smell to make sure babies would continue to be created in the species.
In humans, he used the eyes of man, and insured that men would forever chase young women who look good. And especially NEW women who look good, since he also cursed men with the tendency to lose interest very quickly in their current women.
God wants men out and about creating babies! Marriage is a false societal constraint and a human invention that actually thwarts God’s plan, and as such, it will never be completely successful.
Why do women cheat? Who the hell knows?
I got my freshly married Wife a concealed carry class for Christmas.
Then got her a pistol for her birthday.
Nope. Not gonna cheat.
Women cheat for the same reason men cheat.
No morals and a belief they can do anything at anytime with anyone without any responsibility or remorse.
But it ALWAYS comes back to no morals whatsoever.
Period!
Please expand on first statement. And then expand on different cultures... I am ethnically only 1/2 “Western” as it were. So I’d be interested to get your take.
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