Posted on 08/18/2020 1:48:52 PM PDT by CondoleezzaProtege
"The greatest and most challenging test for any man is to romance and pursue the same woman for a lifetime."
In my opinion, the best movie about Vietnam is We Were Soldiers starring Mel Gibson. He plays lieutenant colonel Hal Moore who commanded the first major battle of that war known as the Battle of Ia Drang. Surrounded and facing overwhelming odds, Moore and his soldiers withstood the onslaught for a week. One of the things Moore credits as a reason for the success was the love and devotion the soldiers had for one another. However, equally as important, was Moore’s consistent studying of the battlefield and knowledge of his enemy. He knew their strategies and the angles they would take to attack. This enabled him to position his forces in places that gave the greatest chance of victory.
In marriage, it is important to have love and devotion to one another. However, it is also equally important to know the temptations and pitfalls that attack marriage. One of the biggest enemies of marriage is infidelity. Knowing this enemy inside and out will help us remain faithful. Last week, we discussed why women cheat. Today we answer why men cheat.
Note: These are reasons, not justifications. Cheating is never justifiable under any circumstances.
Unfulfilled Emotional Needs
This seems to be the top reason. Most men who cheat consistently have expressed feeling disconnected from their wives. Men and women were both created for relationships. The need for emotional connection is innate in all of us, man or woman. However, physical affection and sex is an important way for men to feel emotionally connected with their wives. When that isn’t happening, it is easy for men to become withdrawn. When husbands emotionally drift from their wives, other connections will act like gravity.
Win Early: Work tirelessly to connect with your wife. When you feel yourself drifting, do whatever it takes to keep your feet secured in your marriage. Go out on dates, talk, find something new to experience together. Never stop, ever.
The Thrill, Insecurity, and Ego
”There are many men that simply love the excitement of the chase. The feeling of meeting a challenge and winning her over. It makes them feel powerful and attractive. This feeling is particularly enticing when a man feels neglected by his wife. A neglected man will feel rejected and insecure with a bruised ego. As a result, they go hunting to regain the sense of power and self-confidence they have lost.
Win Early: True power cannot be attained by the affirmation of others. The greatest and most challenging test for any man is to romance and pursue the same woman for a lifetime. Wake up every day and ask the question, “How can I win my wife today?”
Distraction
Being a husband and father is stressful. A man may love his wife, but there are now obligations to fulfill. The single life was carefree, but also lonely. They would rather not lose their wife but want a distraction from the pressure that comes with responsibility. They are looking for a quick return to the carefree days with the security of a spouse intact.
Win Early: Stay in the game. Stop the temptation the moment the thought enters your mind, rather than cradling it. When you find yourself looking for distractions, do the opposite. Embrace your responsibilities or you may lose them.
Sexual Addiction
There are women that have this problem, but mainly men. The exact cause is unknown but can involve both a chemical and/or psychological reason. These men consistently engage in sexual behavior (including viewing porn or participating in chat rooms) that brings negative outcomes. Despite the negative effects in their lives, they do not stop.
Win Early: Get treatment immediately. This can be overcome with medical treatment, psychological therapy, or support groups — perhaps all three.
There’s no reason to cheat, chicks are giving it up for free after 1-3 dates.
Don’t get married, just go Wilt Chamberlain.
“The face that scuttled 1,000 ships...”
LOL
BJ, you are a perfect example of a Blue Pill Beta. I don’t think I can explain it to you.
Something about “strange stuff” that some men just enjoy. It’s as simple as that. DNA
My grandmother taught her daughters,in order to make sure a man doesnt cheat dont let him ever leave the house horny or hungry,,She actually even used the crude phrase keep his belly full and his balls empty.She was from the hollars and hills of kentucky they had 12 kids and she outlived 2 husbands.
“Western women have become unbearable.”
I typed it, my wife said it. My wife feels sorry for young men today. Young women today treat men worse than dog sh*t-expendable. She sees this pattern in her horse hobby which is 99% female and her company which is all female employees.
Stems from college where females are indoctrinated against males as being the patriarchy. Females as said above in #16 are always the victim. On and on.
She has to bite her tongue how she sees her female employees treat their bf’s or dates.
Wilt Chamberlain.
Love the punch line: is that you wilt??
“What a fool I was.”
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No....she’s the fool.
Nothing here that we don’t already know.
As a woman married twice I can tell you that continuing the pursuit and romancing her for thirty years is exactly what men do not want to be bothered with. They believe that with the wedding ring comes her responsibility to put out on demand so he can get back to the game.
It’s actually solid advice.
In my own research, I found a frequent common element when working with men who are perpetual cheaters.
The first bond is chat between child and mother. It is a strong emotional love that continues until the child goes through their terrible two’s.
The terrible two’s is when a child first creates a separation with mother. In men who cheat, I frequently found that a younger sibling was born before the older child went through their terrible two’s.
When the mother’s attention switched to the newborn, the older child felt rejected in the mother’s love. This creates a fear of intimacy and an expectation of rejection that lasts throughout life, creating the cheating to ease the fear of intimacy.
Women let themselves go and lose all desire for sex when they are being neglected. That’s a fact.
I’m stealing that.
...but I never really understood how concrete the infidelity drive could be until I saw the television host Kelly Ripa on the screen. Over time, she changed from a pretty young woman into a pre-teen boy. Who, without a same-sex attraction, could go near that?
“Women let themselves go and lose all desire for sex when they are being neglected. That’s a fact.”
See post #16. Women are the perpetual victims.
LOL, I see what you mean.
If you have a wife such as her, I can see men not wanting to go home at night, and then things happen with someone else as he gets lonely.
a lot of the problem is the wives but yes, some men are also the problem!
some men are just very immature or insincere or both.
and some women don’t try to make a happy home for their husbands
i figure those two factors cause about 90 percent of the problem
When I am out and about (pre Covid 19), it was fairly common to see mismatched couples where one person is fit/trim while the other is fat. About 75% of the time, its the woman who is fat.
It could be neglect. However, I think in the majority of cases it comes down to laziness and lack of discipline.
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