Posted on 07/02/2019 1:40:33 PM PDT by Tolerance Sucks Rocks
May 2, 2019 (The Catholic Weekly) – We are living in a unique time in history. Never has politics been so polarised, never has mainstream society come so near to amorality (although Nero’s Rome came close), and never has it been so difficult for a woman to find a good man.
The latter is, I’ll admit, a bold claim but allow me to elaborate.
We constantly bemoan the state of society, the youth, universities, the media, et al, which seem to be collectively falling into ever deeper rabbit holes of noxious regressive ideas, behaviours and policies.
Religious affiliation and church attendance, especially among youth and men in particular, has never been lower. Pornography addiction is a scourge of epidemic proportions among men and even boys as young as 11. Put simply, the world is in a mess.
You’ve heard it all before.
Yet one important side-effect of all this that gets little attention is how tough this new environment has become for women, especially Christian women, to find good husbands. The situation is so dire there is now an emerging trend of women abandoning their faith and religious beliefs for the sake of romantic relationships.
Perhaps this is not considered a particularly serious issue when compared with Brexit, abortion on demand or the erosion of free speech, but I would contend it is every bit as important, if not more so. The future of our society depends on good, solid marriages, families and citizens. We need families to produce educated and informed young men and women who will continue fighting the good fight on all the issues confronting our society.
Yet for someone like me – a 32-year-old single Catholic – the situation looks bleak indeed.
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I agree with you in that I gave up on finding an American woman that didn’t think she was the star of a reality show with ridiculous expectations. I found my girlfriend/fiance in Thailand. I first started going to Thailand on work assignments more than twenty years ago, made a lot of friends there over the years.
I visit there quite a bit and now that I am retired I spend most of the year there. I love the culture and people and especially the food. My girlfriend/fiance and I just opened a restaurant in her small hometown and we’re doing well.
Well, if she’s 32, her dating problems are likely to get far worse. Not interested in some tattoo-spackled purple-haired harpy who cries into her pillow that Mr. Perfect is unavailable. She’s probably spent eight years getting that four-year degree in English Lit or Womyn’s Studies and is only now confronting the real world.
You forgot she also requires someone who is ‘worldly.’
true. One thing I did right when raising my children was keeping them out of the common culture. no TV, classic books, homeschooled most all of them.
They are each an original and sucessful in their own rights.
I’d tell this single “Christian” to drop the ‘worldly’ requirement.
Because they’re boring. If you want to get married, raise a family, live in the suburbs fine. That was me 30 years ago. No way would I ever date a Christian woman now.
BORiinngg!!!!
She will gladly give you two permanent forms of VD from a past jerk of a boyfriend, too.
You should be proud of yourself Chickensoup
especially for the elimination of TV
You’re right, of course.
The only reason I’d drop the “churchgoing” requirement is that the writer is complaining that men are no longer “churchgoing.” So, I was thinking, as long as he respects her, he could convert later.
Women are fallen creatures, just as much as men - it just manifests differently.
I served in youth ministry for a time. I was dismayed by how much the “good girls” wanted the “bad boys”; I was equally dismayed by the refusal of the parents and clergy to admit the phenomenon.
I have heard hundreds (thousands) of sermons in my life, and never heard one admonishing women to choose a virtuous man (though an annual Proverbs 31 sermon is a nearly-universal staple). (I primarily taught Bible Studies; I did touch upon it myself therein.)
Many women do not want a truly honorable man: They think he is weak (not alpha), or boring (not dangerous), or they lack self esteem, and do not think themselves worthy. Many others do not do so until they have spent their prime years with dishonorable ones.
Sinners are sinners. That is why they need a Savior. That includes - real or feigned - Christian women just as much as the rest.
I think something that enters into this gals perception is young single guys are often ready to be regular attendees at a church but are very put off to find that they are almost in a meat market if they attend. They attend knowing they are there for a solitary experience and that is not what they get.
Ergo, they don’t attend alone.
Are you sure it’s her FB page that you found?
I reject that, as an ordained minister.
Did Jesus and the Apostles all need women to civilize them? The truth is that the best of men are the most civilised, the least chaotic, of all human beings.
Did the Founding Fathers create chaos with the Declaration and Constitution? Did they all need women to remedy that ostensible chaos?
This is a worldly, a pseudo-Christian, idea spawned by the likes of George Gilder, and echoed by cookie-cutter conservatives; it is not Biblical.
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church; not, Husbands, let your wives tame the beast in you and turn you into something vaguely human.
The context here is among Christian women, who are sinners like men. There are men worth considering as marriage partners; women too frequently ignore them in favor of the bad-boy works-in-progress.
A more real problem thus is treating this like some sort of prescription: Women should look for a fixer-upper, a male who needs a real makeover, rather than for a spiritually-minded man who seeks the Kingdom of Heaven first, instead of as an afterthought.
Yours is a worldly attitude, not a Scriptural one.
The desire of the fallen female to fix a broken male is a corruption of what God intended.
Or maybe, some young men just think that a young woman who smiles, extends her hand, and offers the Sign of Peace is hitting on them. But, all she's really doing is offering the Sign of Peace.
I read a book when I was single, “How to Marry the Man of Your Choice”. It had some hard truths in it for women. One was that a woman will have a long laundry list of what she wants a man to be like, but the she wants him to just “love me like I am.” A woman must put her best foot forward if she wants to attract a man who does the same.
Another lesson was: be kind to all the people you meet. If “Mr. Right” sees you at a bar blowing off one guy after another for superficial reasons, he is not going to approach you. He will conclude that you are not interested in meeting any one at all. He will NOT conclude that you are blowing off the other guys because you are waiting for him!
I am a Catholic woman who married in my 30s. Yes, there were fewer men around who had the seriousness about faith and marriage that I was looking for. And as a professional woman, I thought I needed a smart guy for companionship. And I had to “settle” on some qualities and redouble my gratitude for other ones. But, I am ever so grateful that my dear husband was also willing to “settle” on some things in order to spend life with me!
I do wish this woman the best. But there are no substitutes for being a genuine, caring person who is willing to trust a good man who is a diamond in the rough.
Married for 23 years and counting.
“She sure loved the free meals though.”
Women are feminists until the check comes.
By the time a girl reaches twenty it is anyone’s guess how many pigs she has slept with, better not over sixteen.
As the mother of a 20 year-old girl I am appalled at you. There are plenty of young women and men who are not over-sexed. They have values and also are shy and focused on educational goals.
The world is not only made of Spring Break in Florida participants.
BTTT
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