Posted on 06/20/2019 10:03:45 AM PDT by Responsibility2nd
“My boyfriend can’t get over how many people I’ve slept with. I shouldn’t have told him, but he pressed me for the info. He was 'nerdy’ for most of high school and college, and just started coming into his own in his mid to late 20s. I have been dating consistently for years, and have had my fair share of hookups and relationships. And while I don’t think my number is crazy at all, he can’t deal with the discrepancy. We’ve been dating for two years and we’re serious. I don’t want to break up. How can I handle this?”
I agree that you probably shouldn’t have told him, but lots of people fall into the trap of discussing their sexual history with their current partner, and I get it. If you trust someone, it’s natural to want to talk about what you’ve learned from past relationships and sexual experiences. That said, numbers really aren’t necessary, and rarely do anything aside from making one person feel bad.
But you can’t go back, and his reaction may have provoked an important conversation. After all (and as you well know), this isn’t an issue of who has slept with more people. It’s about his comfort with his past, and it’s about both of you establishing that your needs are being met by this relationship.
First, you have to figure out the problem you’re tackling, because it will change the course of action.
(Excerpt) Read more at yahoo.com ...
144 is gross.
I once knew an older lady who lost her husband. This woman didn’t know how to drive, didn’t know how to write a check, didn’t know how much money was in the bank, didn’t know how to reconcile a checking account, and didn’t know how to operate a clothes dryer because her husband never allowed the freedom in their marriage to do those things.
After she buried him she came around to the thought that he didn’t love her.
I felt sorry for her but she was the one who decided to live in the cage.
>>>Most men don’t realize how easy it is for a gal, even one who is only average in looks, to get laid<<<
A Baby Boy and a Baby Girl are sitting on the floor playing.
The Baby Boy pulls open the front of his Diaper, looks down and says to the Baby Girl, you don’t have one of these.
The Baby Girl then opens the front of her Diaper looks down and says to the Baby Boy, with one of these I can get a hundred of those.
Like dropping a pencil down a mine shaft.
You clearly don't know what you're talking about, and should refrain from imputing motives or state of mind to other people. Really. That tactic is straight out of Alinsky's "Rules for Radicals". That you would employ it is very unflattering to you.
As for you personally (since you've brought it up more than once) … you come across as being very sensitive to any form of disagreement, and extraordinarily defensive about your chosen lifestyle. If that's not the case, you might reconsider how you communicate. Just a friendly observation … I don't presume to know your state of mind.
I meant that as ... in his mind he is already gone and this is just an excuse to make that happen.
Well, back in the day, women were raised in cages, so marriage was merely a transfer from one cage to another. Whenever I look at Islamic culture and shudder, I have to remind myself that our own culture as recently as 70 years ago wasn’t so different.
nope not lefty trolls!!! Just uptight old guys who think they are the big kahuna.
Um... calling me sensitive and defensive is no different from me calling you angry. But if I’ve helped you go from “bitches and sluts” to “sensitive and defensive,” then I’m happy to have participated.
But was she faithful to her boyfriend?
But your blatant hyperbole and histrionic cliches say nothing about you.
Never ever discuss your former lovers with your present lover!!!!!
Is he waiting for her to make the move? If so, then what I said still applies: he doesn't have the courage to do it, so she'd better do it for both their sakes.
And some of the male posters on this thread believe they are the bomb! LOL I’ve always thought the men who think that way are really just big time losers underneath.
As the old saying goes, why buy the cow if the milk is free?
Given all their remarks about big tunnels and little hot dogs and who has a "tight fit" I think they would LIKE to be the big kahuna, but... aren't entirely certain. The ones who mutter about a woman having too much basis for comparison are revealing a lot.
< shakes head, sadly >
This thread just jumped the shark.
Anyone who thinks Islamic culture circa AD2019 is even remotely like American culture circa AD1949 has no credibility. That's just dumb. It's not even worth the effort of looking up and posting "The Ultimate Flame"
But I bet she was faithful to her current boyfriend though wasn’t she.
Whoa....disagree with your analysis. Women in cages??
Disclaimer: Opinions posted on Free Republic are those of the individual posters and do not necessarily represent the opinion of Free Republic or its management. All materials posted herein are protected by copyright law and the exemption for fair use of copyrighted works.