Posted on 02/21/2019 2:27:34 PM PST by SeekAndFind
Be honest, straight men: You all want to know what women want. Luckily, a bunch of scientists have wondered the same thing.
These types of studies are often small, and frequently rely on self-reported feelings in a lab, which may be different from how women truly react in real life. And the participants are often Western college students, who are not an especially a diverse group. So take the results with a grain of salt.
But hey, whatever helps, right?
Here are 11 science-supported traits that women find irresistible.
1. Good looks can be a factor, but they're not as important as you may think. In studies, women typically choose better-looking guys for flings, not long-term relationships.
2. A sense of humor is important to women. Scientists have found it makes men seem more intelligent.
3. For long relationships, women tend to prefer altruistic men who are kind and do good deeds.
4. In studies, women choose men posing in front of expensive cars or apartments, versus ordinary ones, possibly because they make the men appear rich.
5. Women may like older men because they've had time to accumulate more resources.
6. Facial hair has been an attraction and a repellent in studies, so that feature is likely based on preference. Do what you want with your face; you'll attract the right mate.
7. Older research concluded that people liked when other people liked them, but recent studies have found that "playing hard to get" could be an effective tactic. When men are unavailable, that might make women want them more.
8. Small studies have indicated that men with dogs do better with the ladies.
9. In one speed-dating experiment, women were more attracted to men who were mindful — present, attentive, and nonjudgmental.
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There is actually a million dollar bill??
Imagine the 7-Eleven that has to make change. ;)
Nice money pictures.
I think that they have withdrawn all above the $100 bill from general circulation. But your point is well taken.
Well #8 is surely true. When I take my terrier to the dog park I get into a lot of chats with lots of women. I’m not sure if they like me or the dog though.
He never fails to disappoint. Never. Sniffs out any opportunity.
I have told the mods over and over again that women who give money to this site shouldn’t have to put up with this endless crap. And yet, we are ignored.
3. For long relationships, women tend to prefer altruistic men who are kind and do good deeds.
This is not true. From the time they develop an interest in boys, the majority of teenage girls tend to go for the “bad boy” type, and usually stick with that for years.
I’ve been in relationships with women who had been involved in a couple of abusive relationships, every time they will dump a “nice guy” who would never hurt a woman, for the first idiot that comes along and treats them like dirt.
This has also been proven in clinical studies of abusive relationships. Both men and women involved in abusive relationships follow predictable patterns. Long term verbal abuse is followed by long term physical abuse, and by the time the physical abuse starts, the woman has been brainwashed or indoctrinated (by verbal abuse) to believe she deserves no better, and brought it on herself. It’s a distinct pattern, and predictable.
If you ever hear someone berating his wife or girlfriend, “you’re just so stupid”, “you can’t do anything right” etc, that’s part of a distinct pattern. The women follow a similar pattern and will actually look for someone else who is just the same, after finally getting out of an abusive relationship. And they don’t realize they are doing it. They are usually the type who try their very best to please the man they are with, and there is no pleasing him. They can’t understand why nothing works, they try their best and he still just blows up every time.
I’ve seen this several times, been dumped with no warning by several women and didn’t know why, that’s why I started to research it. Each had been through abusive relationships before I came along. Everything going well, a close friend telling me she loves me, suddenly one day she won’t answer the phone or the door. When I finally find out, she met some doofus who treated her like dirt, let him move in 3 days later, less than 2 months and he beat the crap out of her and put her in the hospital. (True story) My friend’s wife had been telling me just be patient, she loved me and was scared as I was, she had told her she loved me. Saw her one day, everything fine, 2 days later she wouldn’t answer the phone...
The couple who were close friends told her do not ever bring him to their house again. She bumped the coffee table getting up, spilled his beer and ran to the kitchen to get a towel. He threw a screaming fit, called her things I won’t include here, demanded she go get him another effing beer, before she could clean up the mess. After he put her in the hospital her father told him if he ever came within a hundred yards of her he’d look him up with a shotgun. I lost track of them, never found out what happened after that. When she met me she had just divorced another idiot who beat the crap out of her a dozen times. That’s why she was scared to start anything with me.
This is the story every time, it’s a proven and predictable pattern. I’ve been through the exact same scenario at least 5 times with different women. Those who do prefer a nice guy always will, those who look for and are screwed around by the bad boy type, always will. Unless after 20 years or so they finally come to their senses...that’s uncommon though.
As a general rule though, #3 is bull...
Used between banks long time ago; never in circulation.
Bingo!
Nice try LOL, when a woman says things like that, Iwe see it as the manipulative BS it is. The main female weapon to try to force male compliance. How does it feel when it doesn’t work? A little frustrating? LOL
And she is VERY not guilty.
“And yet, we are ignored.”
Yes dear.
“women who had been involved in a couple of abusive relationships, every time they will dump a “nice guy” who would never hurt a woman, for the first idiot that comes along and treats them like dirt.”
While in college, I decided to go into full Jerk mode for a month. WOW did I get results. I was and am one of the nice guys and wanted to see what would happen. I had women throwing themselves at me. At the end of the month, I shut down the jerk persona and they all left. Interesting experiment.
I got married to a woman who was looking for a “nice guy” and we have been married 30 years.
I actually agree with you. Guys routinely think that money — or the image of money — is a real aphrodisiac for women. I don’t think so. Sure, there are women who seek out men who can keep them in a lifestyle, but that’s more practical than romantic. The “need” for a thick wallet is just an excuse a lot of men use for their failure with women. I’ve seen some pretty hot ladies with dirt-poor “artiste” types who will never earn enough to buy a tuna sandwich, let alone support a spouse or family.
All those you list fall into the ones I list.
“Be honest, straight men: You all want to know what women want.”
Why?
Im guessing Im seeing about two rich guys there.
Well, at least I have dogs.
Here’s the thing. Most women dislike themselves. They hate the way they look, their face, their hair, their body, their education, their job, their dwelling, their clothes. I mean, everything.
So along comes Mr. Nice guy. He gets smitten and tells her she is smart, fun, beautiful, etc etc. She likes it BRIEFLY. She watches how he seems to be very content with her. So soon, she starts thinking he isn’t very bright because he can’t see how awful she really is. It’s hard to love someone you think isn’t very bright.
So along comes a jerk. He treats her with casual contempt, and seems to barely enjoy being around her. He’ll laugh AT her or put her down at the drop of a hat. She seethes in resentment. BUT, soon she “realizes” he sees her the way she sees herself. Soon she will do anything for her because she respects him for not acting like a clown to impress her. He sees her as she sees herself. It’s like catnip to them.
Sicko, but it fits an astonishing number of the bad relationships you see out there where women dump nice guys and pick up with jerks.
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