Posted on 08/08/2011 9:53:38 AM PDT by Irishguy
Hi Freepers,
i need you to help with 2 things. my mum was hit by a car this morning and suffered severe head injuries, she is on life support and they will not operate due to the extent of her injuries. if you could include her in your prayers i would really appreciate it..
my second request for help. Our 6 year old son was very attached to his granny. he looks to visit her twice a week and was there yesterday with her. Does anyone know how i can let him know and when? also as she is still in the hospital should i let him see her to help him understand (keep in hind she has a ton of equipment with her keeping her alive)? any help greatfully received
Praying for a miracle for your mum.
If she looks horrible, it might not be a good idea for your precious son to be exposed to that. You can tell him that she is very hurt and kids can’t go see people who are that hurt in the hospital. But every child is different and they do respond differently. It is your call whether to show him what she’s like now or not.
May she receive a full healing. May you be comforted and feel loved during this scary sad time.
Prayers lifted.
Hugs for your son.
Irishguy,
I am so very sorry. You will be in my prayers this day, and tonight. As will be your family, and especially, your son. Take heart, friend, even when all seems so hard. Remember that you are loved, and that your mother is likewise loved. With your son, you know him best. Trust him. We all learn of death’s cruel sting. There is nothing wrong with tears, or with telling him the truth. He will be as you know him to be.
Beyond that, I can only repeat what two here whom I respect have said: trust in God. If you’re Catholic, please ask for the Sacrament of Extreme Unction (often known as Last Rites), for your mother, as well as saying the Rosary, especially the Sorrowful Mysteries, for her. Pray. I will pray for you, either way. God does love you.
Memorare.
Prayers offered for you and your whole family, Irishguy. I’m not sure what advice I can offer in terms of your son, but I’m inclined to think that at the age of 6 it probably doesn’t make sense to expose him to the difficult nature of a hospital situation unless there is an opportunity for the two of them to respond to each other.
Adding my prayers
Lord our God, be near Thy servant in the hour of her trial and comfort her family, and shine Thy face on her grandchildren and be with them forever.
In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost. Amen.
In prayer.
Still praying, Irishguy.
Lost my mom earlier this year, so this hits close to home. Am definitely praying.
BZ
Notre père, qui êtes aux cieux!
Que votre nom soit sanctificié. Que votre règne vienne.
Que votre volonté soit faite, sur la terre comme au ciel.
Donnez-nous aujourd'hui notre poindre ce jour.
Pardonnez-nous nos offenses, comme nous pardonnons aussi a ceux, qui nous ont offensés,
et ne nous soumetez pas à la tentation, mais délivrez-nous du mal.
Car c'est à toi qu'appartiènne, le régne, la puissance et la gloire, pour les siècles des siècles.
Amen.
Je vous salue, Marie, pleine de grâces,
le Seigneur est avec vous, vous êtes bénie entre toutes les femmes,
et Jésus le fruit de vos entrailles est béni.
Sainte Marie, Mère de Dieu, priez pour nous pauvres pécheurs,
maintenant, et à l'heure de notre mort. Ainsi-soit-il.
Garde la Foi, mes amis! Nous nous sommes les sauveurs de la République! Maintenant et Toujours!
(Keep the Faith, my friends! We are the saviors of the Republic! Now and Forever!)
LonePalm, le Républicain du verre cassé (The Broken Glass Republican)
We weren't dragged off to funeral homes at age six to be forced to look at the corpses, either....nor into the sometimes scary hospital rooms of the dying.
Too many parents today want to appear to be on "the cutting-edge" with their kids. They view them as little adults. They're not. Let six-year-olds be six-year-olds. Let them have a few more years of childhood. It's bad enough they're being sexualized in 1st grade at age six.
We never had visiting shrinks or "grief specialists" called in to deal with six-year-olds or anyone else in the family, either. There weren't any, thank God. You counted on your own inner strength and your faith.
How on earth did we EVER grew up normal and without dreadful wounds to our psyches without being forced to participate at a tender age in all the dying and death processes in our extended familes.
BTW, sick and infirm relatives were visited by all of us, even those of tender age, and we were taught to do things for them. That's a different matter.
Leni
My father was killed as a result of a car accident when I was 5 going on 6. That was 45 years ago and children were never allowed to visit someone in the hospital at that time.
He lingered for several days in the hospital and then died.
I still don’t know the details as my mother refuses to talk about it. She still misses him after all these years.
I wish they had been honest with me even if I couldn’t have gone to see him, I would have known that he didn’t just disappear.
Tell your little one what happened and that everything is being done to make his grandma better. Tell him that she loves him and would be with him if she could. Pray for her, for her doctors and for each other with him and help him made her a card or poster for her room.
Children can be more traumatized when kept in the dark.
Sad things in life can’t be avoided, but he can learn that families are there for one and another when these things happen and he can learn that he can trust his parents to be honest with him.
My prayers are with you and your family that God will give all of you the strength, grace and love you need and give the doctors what they need to make her whole again.
Prayers sent.
I would say the healthiest thing is to tell him, but have him focus on the things he CAN do: make her cards, pray, light a candle in church, organize his friends to pray, help you by doing his chores well, etc.
Personally, I wouldn’t bring him to the hospital. I’d take pictures of his cards and art on the wall in her hospital room, so he’ll always have the mental image of them on the wall as she saw them. You could even take a picture of her hand holding his card. In later years, he will have the knowledge that he poured out his love to her when she needed it and she was somehow helped by it.
Just my two cents.
I will be praying hard for your Mom and your little boy.
Has he seen her yet? If not, I don’t know if I would let him see your Mom hooked up to all that equipment. If he insists on seeing her however, I would sit him down and have a really detailed conversation with him about what to expect. Just tell him that she is really hurt and that all of the tubes and equipment are helping her and that she isn’t feeling any pain from it.
My heart really breaks for you and your family. Just keep praying and God will give you the strength that you need.
God bless all of you.
sent
To Irish guy: Hail Mary, full of grace; The Lord is with Thee/Blessed are thou among women and Blessed is the fruit of thy Womb Jesus. Holy Mary Mother of God/pray for sinners now and at the hour of our death .Amen
Just got word about your mom.
I am lifting her and your family up before Our Father in Heaven.
Be straight with the kid. He will never forgive you if you are not. Tell him Granny had an accident and she is hurt badly. You know him best. If he can take seeing in the hospital then show him. If he can’t then just go to the waiting room. Keep him busy with coloring or some such. Answer all of his questions as honestly as you can. Do not put him off or say “not now”.
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